BGR for a 13 year old

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Re: BGR for a 13 year old

Post by janet88 » Thu Apr 17, 2014 11:39 am

Yup...socialize...female classmates are not aliens.

Son tells me his friends who have paired up go to nearby mall for meals/cinema...and I will ask him who pays. His reply is, the boys pay. So I ask him whose money are the boys using? Does the boy have the means to treat his so-called girlfriend to cinema and meals?

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Re: BGR for a 13 year old

Post by kwcllf » Thu Apr 17, 2014 11:44 am

janet_lee88 wrote:Yup...socialize...female classmates are not aliens.

Son tells me his friends who have paired up go to nearby mall for meals/cinema...and I will ask him who pays. His reply is, the boys pay. So I ask him whose money are the boys using? Does the boy have the means to treat his so-called girlfriend to cinema and meals?
Aiyah. Must impress mah! :kiss:

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Re: BGR for a 13 year old

Post by TheAnswer » Thu Apr 17, 2014 11:55 am

kwcllf wrote:
janet_lee88 wrote:Yup...socialize...female classmates are not aliens.

Son tells me his friends who have paired up go to nearby mall for meals/cinema...and I will ask him who pays. His reply is, the boys pay. So I ask him whose money are the boys using? Does the boy have the means to treat his so-called girlfriend to cinema and meals?
Aiyah. Must impress mah! :kiss:
I dated hubby when I was in secondary school. We always share the cost of the date. I think if the young girls take advantage of their so called bfs, they are really insensible. The secondary boys are also immature. Pay for their gfs? :slapshead: :siao: :mad:

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Re: BGR for a 13 year old

Post by sleepy » Thu Apr 17, 2014 12:02 pm

slmkhoo wrote:I don't know about boring - I married my first and only boyfriend, and I've never thought it boring! We didn't meet quite that early though - met at 19 but didn't 'go steady' until a year or so later, married at 23, celebrating 27 yrs of marriage this year.
:hi5: Me too!

We started dating only when I was 24 years old. Me late boomer :wink:
And not bored yet

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Re: BGR for a 13 year old

Post by Sun_2010 » Thu Apr 17, 2014 12:09 pm

This leads me to a question....
Say for the child is about 15yrs old.
If you are acquainted with your child's friend's parent (possibly thru your child), and come to know that your child's friend is in a BGR, would you inform the parent ? What if it nothing serious, nothing hanky panky?

And conversely , you want to be informed if your child did not confide in you?


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Re: BGR for a 13 year old

Post by jetsetter » Thu Apr 17, 2014 12:11 pm

13yo is way too young for BGR, though I had quite a lot of secret admirers at that age!

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Re: BGR for a 13 year old

Post by TheAnswer » Thu Apr 17, 2014 12:13 pm

jetsetter wrote:13yo is way too young for BGR, though I had quite a lot of secret admirers at that age!
I dunno if I had a lot of admirers when I was 13-18.. But I had a lot of gfs who hated me :shrug:

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Re: BGR for a 13 year old

Post by Funz » Thu Apr 17, 2014 12:16 pm

Sun_2010 wrote:This leads me to a question....
Say for the child is about 15yrs old.
If you are acquainted with your child's friend's parent (possibly thru your child), and come to know that your child's friend is in a BGR, would you inform the parent ? What if it nothing serious, nothing hanky panky?

And conversely , you want to be informed if your child did not confide in you?
Acquainted only, no.

If the parent is one of my best buds, that means, I know the kid pretty well too, I will talk to the kid and ask him/her if the parents know. If not, will advise them to tell their parents soon for if the subject do come up, I will not be keeping the secret for them.

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Re: BGR for a 13 year old

Post by jetsetter » Thu Apr 17, 2014 12:32 pm

TheAnswer wrote:
jetsetter wrote:13yo is way too young for BGR, though I had quite a lot of secret admirers at that age!
I dunno if I had a lot of admirers when I was 13-18.. But I had a lot of gfs who hated me :shrug:
That problem I didn't hv. My gfs loved me deep deep... :smile:

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Re: BGR for a 13 year old

Post by Sun_2010 » Thu Apr 17, 2014 12:32 pm

Funz wrote:
Sun_2010 wrote:This leads me to a question....
Say for the child is about 15yrs old.
If you are acquainted with your child's friend's parent (possibly thru your child), and come to know that your child's friend is in a BGR, would you inform the parent ? What if it nothing serious, nothing hanky panky?

And conversely , you want to be informed if your child did not confide in you?
Acquainted only, no.

If the parent is one of my best buds, that means, I know the kid pretty well too, I will talk to the kid and ask him/her if the parents know. If not, will advise them to tell their parents soon for if the subject do come up, I will not be keeping the secret for them.
Thanks funz. I makes me a bit relived. I happen to know the parents of both. The girl and boy both are level headed , smart decent kids. DD and I are pretty close, she shares a lot of stuff with me and going by what DD says - they behave pretty normal, so I am keeping it to myself. Also I really wouldnt know how to call the parents just to say this sort of stuff :sweat: And of course, DD would kill me.

On the other hand I wonder , if DD were to be linked up with someone, and if she doesnt share it with me, even though we are pretty close, wouldnt I want to know?

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