Best gift for kids - parents' strong marriage

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Best gift for kids - parents' strong marriage

Postby chloecube » Tue Jun 26, 2012 3:13 pm

Published on Jun 26, 2012

http://www.straitstimes.com/STForum/Sto ... 14996.html

MUCH has been said about Singaporean parents' (over)emphasis on offering their children the best education possible, in a bid to give them a head start in life.


But education is a means to an end. Have parents considered and defined the 'end' and how they see success for their children?


Success, by many parents' definition, seems to centre only on academic achievement, in the hope that it will land their children good jobs with high pay. But does success revolve only around the themes of attaining wealth, material gain, achievement and status?


I would like to offer another perspective to what parents can give their children; one that is often neglected - the quality of their marital relationship.


According to research, a healthy marriage brings many benefits to children. They are more likely to succeed academically, are physically and emotionally healthier, are less prone to behavioural problems in school and delinquent behaviours, and have better relationships with their parents.


Social science research confirms that children grow up happy and healthy in homes where their parents are in stable and strong marriages.


A strong marriage is an intangible and priceless gift to children, which also begets a strong family unit - the bedrock of every society.


The trappings of a successful life charted for our children become hollow without the substance of a strong marriage. After all, our marriage is where our children draw their intrinsic life lessons on relationships, communication and the works.


Agnes Goh (Ms)


Parenting Specialist


Focus on the Family Singapore

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Re: Best gift for kids - parents' strong marriage

Postby fightingmom » Tue Jun 26, 2012 3:20 pm

:thankyou: for sharing!

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Re: Best gift for kids - parents' strong marriage

Postby chloecube » Tue Jun 26, 2012 3:38 pm

fightingmom wrote::thankyou: for sharing!


u r welcomed :)

i cant agree more to this article, that is why i posted it

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Re: Best gift for kids - parents' strong marriage

Postby Guest » Tue Jun 26, 2012 4:00 pm

I agree to this as well, thanks for sharing.
It is not money, best education etc... children look for family togetherness to thrive. This is why people always say home is where the family is. Holiday to different locations is never an issue for children to adapt to any place because as long as parents are with them.
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Re: Best gift for kids - parents' strong marriage

Postby kiddo » Wed Jul 04, 2012 11:06 pm

ksi wrote:I agree to this as well, thanks for sharing.
It is not money, best education etc... children look for family togetherness to thrive. This is why people always say home is where the family is. Holiday to different locations is never an issue for children to adapt to any place because as long as parents are with them.



Yes yes yes yes i second that ....... :kiss:

why did not we think of that ........... :hi5:

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Re: Best gift for kids - parents' strong marriage

Postby alng » Thu Jul 05, 2012 8:39 am

Totally agree with the article. My dd's school ever organised a talk by a male family counsellor 2-3 years ago. He said that the greatest love a father can ever give his children is to love their mother.

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Re: Best gift for kids - parents' strong marriage

Postby chloecube » Thu Jul 05, 2012 8:45 am

alng wrote:Totally agree with the article. My dd's school ever organised a talk by a male family counsellor 2-3 years ago. He said that the greatest love a father can ever give his children is to love their mother.


:rahrah: :rahrah:
yup, think i heard that too
always place your spouse in the first place, followed by kids, frds,work..etc

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Re: Best gift for kids - parents' strong marriage

Postby kiddo » Thu Jul 05, 2012 9:37 am

chloecube wrote:
alng wrote:Totally agree with the article. My dd's school ever organised a talk by a male family counsellor 2-3 years ago. He said that the greatest love a father can ever give his children is to love their mother.


:rahrah: :rahrah:
yup, think i heard that too
always place your spouse in the first place, followed by kids, frds,work..etc


will :kiss: :kiss: :kiss: :kiss: :kiss: :kiss: my DH today when i go home from work
He is my best Punching Bag :heresmyfish:

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Re: Best gift for kids - parents' strong marriage

Postby chloecube » Thu Jul 05, 2012 10:59 am

DD ever ask me if i love her or DH more
told her tat i love DH more, he is my husband.
because w/o him, there wont be her
but i assure her that she is the next in the list ..hahah

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Re: Best gift for kids - parents' strong marriage

Postby Laurenwkids » Thu Jul 05, 2012 11:18 am

Thanks for sharing..

Want to share this post I read recently:
http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid= ... =1&theater

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