KiasuParents - Parenting in Singapore

Do you greet your sis-in-law " DA SAO" or just by name?

My sil is younger than me.. and always make sulken faces when i see her.
Last week, mil asked me why she never before hear me greet my sil?
I replied her by telling her that everytime see her face, she showed a black face as if i owe her money, how do you expect me to greet her?

I always have this devil in me telling me that mil favours my DH's brother and his wife more.... overall i am ok with my mil, just feel that she can be abit bias... for the qns she asked me... do you think so? Or i am just being sensitive?

SIL here is referring to my DH's older bro's wife....... not MIL's daughter

I do. Not only the elders, I even greet my nieces, nephews and younger cousins when I pop over. Not all will reciprocate or even bother to make eye contact.

I can't control or change how they carry themselves, but I have my own std to maintain. And I make it a point to remind my brood to greet their relatives.

i do greet my hb's elder bro's wife with "hi" or "hello" smilingly.. similarly for hb's younger bro's wife too.. when we are chatting, we would address each other by names as we are of about the same age and if to address her formally as "da sao" it seems abit awkward.. my mil has no issue with the greeting so far..

I was brought up by my grandmother to greet everybody as it is considered manners to do so. Enter house must greet people, enter temple must pray to the gods.

I don't let my dislike to certain members of DH family to affect me. Just greet and bear with it lor. Underneath the smile, Of course there's some members like DH eldest SIL who's very nice and the smile is genuine then. Don't want anybody to find fault cos some of DH sisters' and SILs' six inch swords very sharp.
Before I have had my boys, their children don't bother to greet elders and I just close one eye cos not my children mah. As soon as my own children can talk, I make sure that they greet everybody; even at the dining table. I don't care how they brought up their children but I certainly make sure that mine have manners. Imagine SILs in front of PILs when my 3 boys went around greeting every person down the ranks before eating. Not to be outdone, they started making their children greet everybody from then on and I know secretly they for not having done that for years.

I do greet my "Da sao" even though she is younger than me. If you feel uncomfortable calling her that, at least a smile or hello. It is basic manners/courtesy for us.

I love my da-sao but I do not address her as such. We lived together for about 5 years before I got married, but our relationship is more like sisters/friends. She can even share with me her MIL woes (my mother!) and I will totally understand where she's coming from. Sometimes, I purposely get my mom to stay with me for a few weeks so that she gets a breather from her MIL! Life is fair - I have one horrible SIL (hubby's sis) and one horrible MIL. In exchange for one perfect da-sao!!

I don't greet anybody at all, including my mil and my own parents. The greeting itself is meaningless if not taken with sincerity. Why do for the sake of doing? Why greet if already at bad relations?

mama_g, think your issue is more on her black face, right? I know what you mean. At first, I thought we might be sharing the same relative

Anyway, she ok with addressing by first names? I mean, if she's fine, you're fine, should be ok, right?

My eldest bro's wife n I are of the same age but I call her 大嫂. The other older bros' wives though they are older tan me by a lot.... I call them by their name. They don't mind.

For dh's side, only the husbands know their wife's age...so I call them 大嫂， 二嫂。

As long as I follow tradition, no one can fault me....