Another failed marriage.
Posted: Thu Nov 01, 2012 4:09 pm
Am in an inter-racial marriage. Dh is a Muslim while I am Chinese free-thinker. Known him for more than half a lifetime and married for 12 years.
Since we got married, I have never stepped foot into his parents' home. I have disallowed him to bring our 2 kids (10 and 2) to see his parents. While he was disappointed with that, we were otherwise a happy family (most of the time). Since the passing of his father 3 months ago, his mother had been pestering him to see the kids. His siblings also "poke poke" which pressurized him even more. For avoidance of doubt, Dh does not stop my parents from seeing the kids.
I refused to give in although a part of me know that I a being unreasonable. I can't even explain why I dislike his side of the family so much that I do not want any association with them. Maybe I just don't want my kids to become Muslims.
Dh is considering a divorce so that he could bring the kids to see his mom etc during his visitation time. He said as much to our 10 yo. My kid told me that it did not bother him not knowing his father's side, but it bothered him that his parents would no longer be together.
I left my job last year after the birth of my #2 kid. While I have savings, I need to support my parents financially and meet personal financial obligations ie. insurance. At the moment, Dh pays for household exp and I think his paycheck is about $7k.
While I am still relatively clear-minded, I need to think about the kids' future financial needs (eg. escalating tuition fees esp when my elder son is in sec sch) and our day to day expenses. Where do i start? What do I have to take into consideration? Will I be denied maintenance given I have significant amount of savings? Thanks in advance.
Since we got married, I have never stepped foot into his parents' home. I have disallowed him to bring our 2 kids (10 and 2) to see his parents. While he was disappointed with that, we were otherwise a happy family (most of the time). Since the passing of his father 3 months ago, his mother had been pestering him to see the kids. His siblings also "poke poke" which pressurized him even more. For avoidance of doubt, Dh does not stop my parents from seeing the kids.
I refused to give in although a part of me know that I a being unreasonable. I can't even explain why I dislike his side of the family so much that I do not want any association with them. Maybe I just don't want my kids to become Muslims.
Dh is considering a divorce so that he could bring the kids to see his mom etc during his visitation time. He said as much to our 10 yo. My kid told me that it did not bother him not knowing his father's side, but it bothered him that his parents would no longer be together.
I left my job last year after the birth of my #2 kid. While I have savings, I need to support my parents financially and meet personal financial obligations ie. insurance. At the moment, Dh pays for household exp and I think his paycheck is about $7k.
While I am still relatively clear-minded, I need to think about the kids' future financial needs (eg. escalating tuition fees esp when my elder son is in sec sch) and our day to day expenses. Where do i start? What do I have to take into consideration? Will I be denied maintenance given I have significant amount of savings? Thanks in advance.