Have you let yourself go?

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Have you let yourself go?

Postby Gabby » Sun Nov 04, 2012 11:28 pm

Have you let yourself slack and become lazy in keeping your appearance together after marriage/ childcare?

Has this affect your relationship?

Do you bother to exercise now?

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Re: Have you let yourself go?

Postby Sunflower03 » Mon Nov 05, 2012 1:52 pm

Hi Gabby,

Once have kids for the first few years, I really slack and become lazy in keeping my appearance. But so far okay with relationship.

After married, lazy to do exercise too.

Few months back start to take care of my skin liao. But now stress with other things.

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Re: Have you let yourself go?

Postby Gabby » Mon Nov 05, 2012 2:06 pm

I think the body shape will inadvertently change after childbirth, but we must still consciously try to buy clothes that are best suitable.

I have this fear that my sec school friends see me on the road and say something like,"you look so different."

But I do it mainly for myself, not my hubby. If I asked him, he will shrug his shoulders and say same lor.

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Re: Have you let yourself go?

Postby slmkhoo » Mon Nov 05, 2012 2:06 pm

I definitely slacked, but still have a minimum standard. Where that minimum standard is will vary from couple to couple. My husband actually prefers me to slack as he gets impatient with long hair and makeup routines, so he's actually happier that I've lowered my standards! And when my kids were younger, I used to joke that as long as I had time to dress and shower every day, I was happy! Exercise has never featured much in my life even before kids, and it is now mainly doing the shopping and housework. I don't have a car so I have to walk a fair bit.

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Re: Have you let yourself go?

Postby Funz » Mon Nov 05, 2012 2:13 pm

Let myself go? I was never quite put together to start with so nothing much to let go. :lol:

The first few years after the birth of my kiddos, exercise took a back seat. Now that they are older, I have more 'me' time so exercise is back in my routine.

Aside from that, I think I am putting in more effort to care for my skin.

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Re: Have you let yourself go?

Postby Sunflower03 » Mon Nov 05, 2012 2:29 pm

Think it's time to spend a bit more time for ourselves. Especially when age is catching up. Haiz..

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Re: Have you let yourself go?

Postby sleepy » Mon Nov 05, 2012 3:22 pm

Gabby wrote:I think the body shape will inadvertently change after childbirth, but we must still consciously try to buy clothes that are best suitable.

I have this fear that my sec school friends see me on the road and say something like,"you look so different."

But I do it mainly for myself, not my hubby. If I asked him, he will shrug his shoulders and say same lor.


Same here, I tried to stay slim & fashionable for my self esteem rather than for hubby's benefit. Go gym at least thrice a week, do zumba fitness, kickboxing and body sculpting floor exercises. Signing up for more dancing classes too, a super ON auntie :wink:

Hubby is froze in time, continuing thinking I'm still in my 20s :slapshead: No no no, obviously I'm not looking that young but he doesn't see any difference in me whether I'm chubby or slim. I'm the only one whining about my weight gain & sagging eye lids :cry:

Met a classmate whom I didn't see the last 20 years, 'shocking' is the only word to describe. I wonder what she thinks of me :nailbite:

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Re: Have you let yourself go?

Postby peapot » Mon Nov 05, 2012 5:30 pm

I WISHED I will put on weight!!! I NEVER ever put on weight even after child birth. I hate it so much. I really envy people who are fleshy. They look so good.

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Re: Have you let yourself go?

Postby peapot » Mon Nov 05, 2012 5:33 pm

My neighbour think I still not given birth yet!! So embarrassing g
For me. Sigh!! Sorry for the rant. Feels so frustrated sometimes!!

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Re: Have you let yourself go?

Postby Gabby » Mon Nov 05, 2012 6:02 pm

Wow you are on a good exercise routine. I know what you Mean by "shocking" when you bumped into someone in the past. I saw a gal friend back from school days, and she has really grown.

sleepy wrote:
Gabby wrote:I think the body shape will inadvertently change after childbirth, but we must still consciously try to buy clothes that are best suitable.

I have this fear that my sec school friends see me on the road and say something like,"you look so different."

But I do it mainly for myself, not my hubby. If I asked him, he will shrug his shoulders and say same lor.


Same here, I tried to stay slim & fashionable for my self esteem rather than for hubby's benefit. Go gym at least thrice a week, do zumba fitness, kickboxing and body sculpting floor exercises. Signing up for more dancing classes too, a super ON auntie :wink:

Hubby is froze in time, continuing thinking I'm still in my 20s :slapshead: No no no, obviously I'm not looking that young but he doesn't see any difference in me whether I'm chubby or slim. I'm the only one whining about my weight gain & sagging eye lids :cry:

Met a classmate whom I didn't see the last 20 years, 'shocking' is the only word to describe. I wonder what she thinks of me :nailbite:

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