How to stop copy cats...

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How to stop copy cats...

Postby nonyakueh » Sat Mar 30, 2013 8:42 am

Hi...

I want to seek advice.... regarding how to stop a family of 'copy cats'!

You see, my DD takes a sport and got to know her friend... after some time, we noticed that her friend/family has been copying her/us in some form or manner... such as:
- DD has a colored shoelace... after a few days... DD's friend has a different colored shoelace
- DD has a colored item for her sports equipment... after a few days/weeks... DD's friend has a different colored item for her same sports equipment
- DH offers to send trainer home.... soon... DD's friend's dad offers to do the same for the same trainer
- DD joins in any competition or training.... DD's friend will be there too
- DD attends 4x training... DD's friend attends 5x training (cos her friends always want to be better than her!)
- DD says she wants to aim for a certain secondary school... DD's friend says she aims for the same
- DD's friend also told us that her mom even noticed what color t-shirts we wear on competition days! :nailbite:

I know I cannot stop the family of copy cats, but this is really distasteful and irritating to the max!

Is there anything I can do? I need well-meaning advice.

Thank you.

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Re: How to stop copy cats...

Postby SAHM_TAN » Sat Mar 30, 2013 10:11 am

Imitation is the highest form of compliments. Why don't take it in that spirit and you will feel better. Treat it as you are the trend setter.

Like the brand smiggle, I think many of dd1's classmates have the brand's products, so dd1 is eyeing a new smiggle pencil box too heehee. But she knows she has to wait till her bday.

My example is more of a fad chasing among the kids but if you treat it along that line then you will not feel so troubled by it.

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Re: How to stop copy cats...

Postby auntieM » Sat Mar 30, 2013 10:28 am

Interesting thread.. ...
From tuition centres to holiday destinations... Copycats sure will 'haunt' you gaogao..
Leave them be, and hope their interest will redirect somewhere else..
:smile:

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Re: How to stop copy cats...

Postby tankee » Sat Mar 30, 2013 11:08 am

why be bothered by their copying actions since it is not causing any harm?

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Re: How to stop copy cats...

Postby Joule » Sat Mar 30, 2013 11:22 am

if I were you I'll be quite flattered

it means your dd is good enough for people to actually want to 'copy'

they cant keep it up forever so lighten up

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Re: How to stop copy cats...

Postby nonyakueh » Sat Mar 30, 2013 11:34 am

Thank you for all your advice.

As much as I like to feel that their copying is completely flattering to me... It has affected my DD as she's rather emo type! I think their copying is totally distasteful when they even video DD during her sparring... And the sparring is not even with their DD!!!! How....???

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Re: How to stop copy cats...

Postby auntieM » Sat Mar 30, 2013 11:55 am

My DS had such a friend at P1, really buay tahan but still have to 'act friendly'.. .. When copycat couldn't 'win',start being nasty and mean to my DS..
Part of growing up I guess.. ..It took us 3 years de.. :faint:

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Re: How to stop copy cats...

Postby SAHM_TAN » Sat Mar 30, 2013 12:29 pm

I guess in competitive sports, it's rather common to record own and competitor's performance to be studied later on. Your dd must be better than theirs right ? :smile:

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Re: How to stop copy cats...

Postby Sun_2010 » Sat Mar 30, 2013 1:02 pm

auntieM wrote:My DS had such a friend at P1, really buay tahan but still have to 'act friendly'.. .. When copycat couldn't 'win',start being nasty and mean to my DS..
Part of growing up I guess.. ..It took us 3 years de.. :faint:

Yes, can be irritating but take it as learnings - :shrug: - it takes all kinds of people to make this world.

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Postby buds » Sat Mar 30, 2013 1:03 pm

SAHM_TAN, auntieM's only child is a DS. :D

While this copy-catting trait isn't causing harm, it does come with some form of annoyance.

At first a little noisy.. can block out. Later on, like... :whut:
Eventually, it becomes total annoyance really.. :roll:
Because the child starts to somewhat stalk your child's every move.
If the parent is also exhibiting similar pattern, i can really empathize with thread starter. :snuggles:

While you don't want to be rude, you also try to be firm. May not work. :frustrated:
While you welcome healthy competition, you also don't want your own child to be demoralized when they sneer at your child should your child lose out by one or two points. :rant:
While you don't mind for child or self to maintain cordial friendship, the :rant: can be a bit much that it can drive one nuts.

I have a friend who has similar copycat family interested in everything they do, same school.. same class.. same trainer.. highly competitive as well and determined to do everything better than the poor child... but worse is they are living in same building/estate. :faint: Can run but hard to hide. :scared:

To ignore is the best way but may not work... all the time.

No well meaning advice from me, but just a note to say i can understand where you're coming from. :hugs:

Hang in there. Even if they are nasty... i meant... crispy.. YOU are ultimately the original. :wink:

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