Most women in troubled marriages are worried abt bread and butter issues, i.e. what's going to happen to me if my hubby walks out on us? Will my world collapse? who's going to support my child(ren) thereafter, esp if I hv no skills or employment record?
I dun wanna dwell on your hubby's r/s with the other woman, but will advise that u check on resources that are available to single mums, in case either of u can no longer communicate with each other and wants out:
Single Parent Agencies
HELP (Help Every Lone Parent) Family Service Centre
(
http://www.helpfsc.org.sg)
They run a Mandarin Support Group and Parent, Public Education Programme and a no. of programmes for the children.
Chinese Development Assistance Council (CDAC)
(
http://www.cdac.org.sg/cos/o.x?c=/cdac_corp/section)
I'm assuming u're Chinese, so CDAC is the place u shd visit if u need affordable tuition for ur child in the future. They also give out bursaries to children from needy families incl single parent families.
If u need to upgrade ur skills, they offer substantial training funding as well. After u've completed ur skills upgrading, they hv resources to help
match u to suitable jobs as well, under their
Workfare programme. (careerlink.cdac.org.sg)
If not Chinese, go to MENDAKI or SINDA.
Self-Help Groups
Wicare
This one runs a host of social events, from picnics to close-door sharing with other single parents (usually 6-8 pax). If u
must talk to someone to purge ur negative feelings, this is the group u can go to.
Family Service Centres (FSCs)
Integer has mentioned this too. There're many FSCs islandwide, depending on your address. It's managed by Voluntary Welfare Organisations and supported by the MSF, NCSS, and staffed by professional social workers who provide a listening ear and helping hand to persons and families in need.
ComCare
If u do not know which agency to contact when u encounter difficulties with ur family, finances or employment, pls call the
ComCare Call Hotline (1800 222 0000).
Women's Associations
WeCare for U Project (NTUC)
This one helps single mums and their kids build stronger bonds with each other through various progs and activities, as well as
provide job assistance.
Besides organising bonding activities for single mums, they hv a
Back-to-Work scheme that helps single mums find jobs (FT/PT/flexi-wk).
They organise regular job fairs thruout the year and hv a good job bank. This
is the place to go if u need a job. Some employers are ok with pp who are bankrupts.
AWARE
They've befrienders, counsellors and legal clinics if u really need some help.
Singapore Council of Women's Organisation (SCWO)
They offer shelters to women that suffer(ed) from family abuse, but u dun need this one I reckon. What I find useful is the IT courses they provide to single mums so that they can be more employable.
Another good initiative is their Thrift Shop for needy families. If u need clothing, electrical appliances, books and baby/ child stuffs which they do sell at half price, this is the place to go.
Other assistance by Community Development Councils (CDC)
-Work Support Employment (WSE)
-Work Support Self Reliance (WSSR)
-Service and Conservancy Charges relief Utilities top-up for pay-as-you-use meter
HDB
You can speak to HDB officers abt renting an apartment, since you said you'd sold your flat. Activate your MP to write appeal letter to HDB on your behalf.