Husband's comment to friend

Successful parenting is founded on successful relationships between spouses and relatives. We must not neglect our spouse while we focus our attention on grooming our children to become the best they can be. Discuss relationship issues here.
Post Reply
TheAnswer
KiasuGrandMaster
KiasuGrandMaster
Posts: 17891
Joined: Thu Dec 06,
Total Likes:30

Re: Husband's comment to friend

Post by TheAnswer » Sun May 18, 2014 9:47 am

ammonite wrote:
janet_lee88 wrote:1) go for a haircut...you will feel good too.
2) change your dressing...apply lipstick, put on perfume. BE different.
3) try to cut down carbo intake during dinner.
4) don't nag at him...close 2 eyes at times.


Agree with Janet.

Don't be so upset by it. He didn't say it to you. Just quietly update your looks and start a healthier lifestyle. Partners influence each other. I started making time to exercise again because of DH's influence, and he started a skincare regime because of my influence. We don't criticize each other, just observing the improvement in each other is enough motivation. I will ask him for exercise tips and he will ask me to go and buy scrub with him. It is also a good example for our kids.


Agree with the 2 of them.. couples influence each other.. I see hubby actively taking care of his fitness and appearance.. I also become diligent in that aspect.. motivation works..

I also try to influence hubby to have a balanced diet.. instead of having fastfood..

bb_ mom
KiasuGrandMaster
KiasuGrandMaster
Posts: 8673
Joined: Mon Nov 25,
Total Likes:13

Re: Husband's comment to friend

Post by bb_ mom » Sun May 18, 2014 9:54 am

I also started exercise regime when I saw how DH went for daily runs. At one time, I realized I was skipping dressing up and make up when we were out on weekends and I looked so tired compared to him. Now, I try to dress better and put on some make up and I feel so much better.

TheAnswer
KiasuGrandMaster
KiasuGrandMaster
Posts: 17891
Joined: Thu Dec 06,
Total Likes:30

Re: Husband's comment to friend

Post by TheAnswer » Sun May 18, 2014 9:55 am

bb_ mom wrote:I also started exercise regime when I saw how DH went for daily runs. At one time, I realized I was skipping dressing up and make up when we were out on weekends and I looked so tired compared to him. Now, I try to dress better and put on some make up and I feel so much better.


:rahrah:

slmkhoo
KiasuGrandMaster
KiasuGrandMaster
Posts: 11315
Joined: Wed Sep 15,
Total Likes:219

Re: Husband's comment to friend

Post by slmkhoo » Sun May 18, 2014 6:04 pm

chixchix wrote:Please help,, i saw this remark on my DH wassup to his friend ( an old man ) me and my DH we are in our late 30s,,now my DH has diabetes so with his strict diet ,,he has become skinny and looks very young, whereas I have become voluptuous and chubby.

Now I saw that he SMS to his friend,that when we were teenagers, we both looked very young ,but now I look like his sister

can anyone tell me what he means by that ? I felt very upset. but i nvr told him that i saw the wassup message

What does his sister look like? Is she considerably older, fatter or whatever? Because my husband's youngest sister is slimmer than I am and looks as young or younger even though she is 3 yrs older than I am. I would be happy to hear that I look like her! (Maybe less happy if compared to the other sisters.) It also depends on the intent of the comment, and without knowing the context, it's hard to say. Maybe you can ask him about it in a non-threatening way? (unless you were looking at his phone without permission).

MeiZi
GreenBelt
GreenBelt
Posts: 132
Joined: Wed Aug 19,

Re: Husband's comment to friend

Post by MeiZi » Mon May 19, 2014 10:24 am

Here's the question, do you really know what attracted your husband to you? Your character? Physical? Men who are bothered about wife's physical appearance are those who are mentally weak. Why should they be slim, keeping fit whilst leaving their wifey behind?


TheAnswer
KiasuGrandMaster
KiasuGrandMaster
Posts: 17891
Joined: Thu Dec 06,
Total Likes:30

Re: Husband's comment to friend

Post by TheAnswer » Mon May 19, 2014 10:25 am

I think we should take care of ourselves not because of our partner but our own satisfaction..

jetsetter
KiasuGrandMaster
KiasuGrandMaster
Posts: 13894
Joined: Tue Oct 04,
Total Likes:223

Re: Husband's comment to friend

Post by jetsetter » Mon May 19, 2014 10:35 am

slmkhoo wrote:
chixchix wrote:Please help,, i saw this remark on my DH wassup to his friend ( an old man ) me and my DH we are in our late 30s,,now my DH has diabetes so with his strict diet ,,he has become skinny and looks very young, whereas I have become voluptuous and chubby.

Now I saw that he SMS to his friend,that when we were teenagers, we both looked very young ,but now I look like his sister

can anyone tell me what he means by that ? I felt very upset. but i nvr told him that i saw the wassup message

What does his sister look like? Is she considerably older, fatter or whatever? Because my husband's youngest sister is slimmer than I am and looks as young or younger even though she is 3 yrs older than I am. I would be happy to hear that I look like her! (Maybe less happy if compared to the other sisters.) It also depends on the intent of the comment, and without knowing the context, it's hard to say. Maybe you can ask him about it in a non-threatening way? (unless you were looking at his phone without permission).


don't think chixchix's hubby meant she bears semblance to his biological sister, but he's just saying chixchix has transformed so much so that both hubby and wife now look like siblings 姐姐弟弟 in the negative sense (i.e. chixchix looks much older than he is)... :wink:

slmkhoo
KiasuGrandMaster
KiasuGrandMaster
Posts: 11315
Joined: Wed Sep 15,
Total Likes:219

Re: Husband's comment to friend

Post by slmkhoo » Mon May 19, 2014 3:02 pm

jetsetter wrote:don't think chixchix's hubby meant she bears semblance to his biological sister, but he's just saying chixchix has transformed so much so that both hubby and wife now look like siblings 姐姐弟弟 in the negative sense (i.e. chixchix looks much older than he is)... :wink:

Must sibling mean older sibling? There must be a nuance there I didn't get! Actually, my husband and I are often told we look like siblings (but I look younger, of course!) and we put it down to having been married for a long, long time. I can't say I regard it as a compliment, but what to do?

ammonite
KiasuGrandMaster
KiasuGrandMaster
Posts: 4322
Joined: Tue Nov 15,
Total Likes:74

Re: Husband's comment to friend

Post by ammonite » Mon May 19, 2014 5:07 pm

TheAnswer wrote:I think we should take care of ourselves not because of our partner but our own satisfaction..


I am shallower. Does not need to be a male model, but definitely please be groomed. Only children and babies can get away with the messy (but not dirty) look.

ammonite
KiasuGrandMaster
KiasuGrandMaster
Posts: 4322
Joined: Tue Nov 15,
Total Likes:74

Re: Husband's comment to friend

Post by ammonite » Mon May 19, 2014 5:12 pm

MeiZi wrote:Here's the question, do you really know what attracted your husband to you? Your character? Physical? Men who are bothered about wife's physical appearance are those who are mentally weak. Why should they be slim, keeping fit whilst leaving their wifey behind?


I do disagree. Again, not supermodel standards, but personal grooming is important. Big sized women too can look very good with the right grooming and clothes.

Post Reply