What would you do if...
Posted: Wed Feb 03, 2010 11:29 am
A True Situation:
Girl came from a divorced family. Her parents divorced since she was Pri 3. I taught this girl for tuition years ago, giving her free tuition as I'm been shown kindness by the girl's mother when I was very young. 6 months later, I gave up.
Many many years on, this girl proceeded to Secondary School and she's a normal academic student. She was in and out of relationships and her mother tried to stop each and every guy for they were really into sexual relationships. Once, she even told her mother that her mother can't die till she turns 21 which, by then, she will be free and marry off. But till then, her mother needs to feed her and make sure she grows up properly.
This year, she ran away from home for days without any trace and she got involved (sexually) with a Malay man who is at least twice her age. She was soon found to be staying at a budget hotel when the police found her. At a tender age of 14, it was underage sex and the police got involved. Court case and stuff.
All these while for the past 2 years, mother and daughter was putting up at her nephew and niece's home, for she couldn't afford a decent roof with her salary after selling away their previous home due to the divorce. But with this court case (quite a BIG hoo ha), her nephew and niece threathened to send this girl to Girl's Home, and her mother obviously refused. The reason for sending the girl away: this girl is beyond hope, but they want their aunt to continue staying with them. They just didn't want the girl. The girl's father argued with them and they told him to take his daughter away. But the girl refused and said she still wanted 'Mummy'. So, with no choice, they chased all 3 of them out of their home and never to return. The mother was so sad and angry cos she had used to pull her niece and nephew back (from orphanage) when their parents left them to fend for themselves. She had shown the same kindness to them as children and guided them to the correct path.
Now, mother and daughter stayed in her brother's home, father returned back to China (has own home there). She refused to give up on paying for the tuitions and piano lessons which cost her almost her salary. But girl, well... is still the same.
Girl is on counselling and once during a session. Counsellor asked her what is it that she wanted. Girl replied, "I just want my mummy and daddy back and we are a family again."
And this girl is an adopted child since she was an infant. The girl doesn't know yet and her mother didn't dare let her know cos since her daughter could tell her 'not to die' before she turns 21, mother doesn't know what will happen if girl knows that she is actually not even her mum.
Question:
What would you do if you were this mother?
Do you think it's her nephew and niece's fault?
Girl came from a divorced family. Her parents divorced since she was Pri 3. I taught this girl for tuition years ago, giving her free tuition as I'm been shown kindness by the girl's mother when I was very young. 6 months later, I gave up.
Many many years on, this girl proceeded to Secondary School and she's a normal academic student. She was in and out of relationships and her mother tried to stop each and every guy for they were really into sexual relationships. Once, she even told her mother that her mother can't die till she turns 21 which, by then, she will be free and marry off. But till then, her mother needs to feed her and make sure she grows up properly.
This year, she ran away from home for days without any trace and she got involved (sexually) with a Malay man who is at least twice her age. She was soon found to be staying at a budget hotel when the police found her. At a tender age of 14, it was underage sex and the police got involved. Court case and stuff.
All these while for the past 2 years, mother and daughter was putting up at her nephew and niece's home, for she couldn't afford a decent roof with her salary after selling away their previous home due to the divorce. But with this court case (quite a BIG hoo ha), her nephew and niece threathened to send this girl to Girl's Home, and her mother obviously refused. The reason for sending the girl away: this girl is beyond hope, but they want their aunt to continue staying with them. They just didn't want the girl. The girl's father argued with them and they told him to take his daughter away. But the girl refused and said she still wanted 'Mummy'. So, with no choice, they chased all 3 of them out of their home and never to return. The mother was so sad and angry cos she had used to pull her niece and nephew back (from orphanage) when their parents left them to fend for themselves. She had shown the same kindness to them as children and guided them to the correct path.
Now, mother and daughter stayed in her brother's home, father returned back to China (has own home there). She refused to give up on paying for the tuitions and piano lessons which cost her almost her salary. But girl, well... is still the same.
Girl is on counselling and once during a session. Counsellor asked her what is it that she wanted. Girl replied, "I just want my mummy and daddy back and we are a family again."
And this girl is an adopted child since she was an infant. The girl doesn't know yet and her mother didn't dare let her know cos since her daughter could tell her 'not to die' before she turns 21, mother doesn't know what will happen if girl knows that she is actually not even her mum.
Question:
What would you do if you were this mother?
Do you think it's her nephew and niece's fault?