Hubby's Unmarried Elder Sister...

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Hubby's Unmarried Elder Sister...

Postby hdbtaitai8 » Thu Sep 08, 2016 10:52 pm

Seems there is not much sharing on this.. please share how you maintain relationship with hubby's unmarried elder sister . Let's us know ur woes/happiness etc. :

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Re: Hubby's Unmarried Elder Sister...

Postby starlight1968sg » Fri Sep 09, 2016 6:09 am

Mine are unmarried younger bro and sis. We are not that close and so little issue

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Re: Hubby's Unmarried Elder Sister...

Postby Yngmng » Fri Sep 09, 2016 7:44 am

One of my ex-bosses commented on this topic and i would just like to share his view here. He will ask his
children not to be too close to this relative so that they will not feel obliged to take care of her in future.

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Re: Hubby's Unmarried Elder Sister...

Postby starlight1968sg » Fri Sep 09, 2016 8:04 am

Yngmng wrote:One of my ex-bosses commented on this topic and i would just like to share his view here. He will ask his
children not to be too close to this relative so that they will not feel obliged to take care of her in future.

If she is financially indept, then I guess not much issue.
My younger unmarried sil is a career lady who earns big bucks.

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Re: Hubby's Unmarried Elder Sister...

Postby Imp75 » Fri Sep 09, 2016 9:49 am

Yngmng wrote:One of my ex-bosses commented on this topic and i would just like to share his view here. He will ask his
children not to be too close to this relative so that they will not feel obliged to take care of her in future.


That's like not teaching the correct values leh?!

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Re: Hubby's Unmarried Elder Sister...

Postby Yngmng » Fri Sep 09, 2016 10:21 am

Given limited resources, time, energy have to be distributed among our job, husband, children, me time. I think he has a point.

Of course, I have friends who participated in volunteer work despite their busy schedule...

I am simply glad that I have sisters whom I can count on for support and company when my children are grown up.

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Re: Hubby's Unmarried Elder Sister...

Postby mummychua » Fri Sep 09, 2016 11:51 am

to a certain extent, i got to agree with Yngmng's husband. i have a colleague who feels obligated to look after his single aunt, bringing her to see doc, finding accommodation for her, visiting every now and then to help her out. it's lucky that this aunt of his has saving of her own otherwise it will be a huge burden on him to support her financially.

i myself have a unmarried twin sister, who have a bf but declared that they will not be married as they don't believe in marriage and have no interest in kids. the downside is that her bf, is at the same age as us, so there is a chance for her bf to change her for a younger one when she become old and wrinkly.

on another hand, my hub only brother is married but no kids. both hub and wife are close to 40, so the chance for them to have a kid is quite low. and they really adore my kids.

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Re: Hubby's Unmarried Elder Sister...

Postby MrsKiasu » Fri Sep 09, 2016 12:40 pm

:offtopic: :smile:
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Re: Hubby's Unmarried Elder Sister...

Postby jedamum » Fri Sep 09, 2016 12:40 pm

...wa..
So unmarried poor aunt...don't so close, will burdenn, then rich aunt...get closer, will leave inheritanc? :yikes:

When I first read the title of this thread, I thought it will be about how some adult siblings may be annoying regardless of marital status. Didn't see that far into old age.

I guess it is a matter of how close one is to the unmarried siblings. I always feel it is nice to have siblings so they can have one another (besidees spouse) to spend the golden years with, reminiscing about childhood shared memories. And am glad my mum has 4 kids as we don't always get along with everyone. And am glad my husband (only child) gets along well with my brother and bil. I encourage my kids to look after each other when they grow up . I guess not so bad if the unmarried relative is nice and genuinely likes the kid. It is more tricky when he or she is the annoying type .... leave it to the adult kids to decide then, what tag at their heart strings.

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Re: Hubby's Unmarried Elder Sister...

Postby BlueBells » Fri Sep 09, 2016 2:46 pm

I guess being married or single is not the issue. To me, the main gist of it all will be how bonded is the aunt to my kids.

I have an elder sis who's single. She adores my children and nephews and looks after / dotes them no less than their biological parents; and I know if something happens to hubby and me, my kids will be in good hand. On the other hand, I have a married BIL (and wife) who has literally zero bonding with my kids. They won't even show face on the first day of CNY despite living with MIL.

Anyway, my brother and I have constantly remind our children that besides their parents, all the next generation kids are expected to chip in and look after my elder sis as well; no two ways about it.

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