Do you disclose how much you earn to your siblings?

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Do you disclose how much you earn to your siblings?

Postby rains » Sun Nov 17, 2013 1:20 am

I am just wondering how many of you have no qualms about letting your siblings know how much you earn. Or have you disclosed it and realised you shouldn't?

I just realised that I am the only one among my siblings to be candid about my salary and feel foolish about being so honest when none of them is willing to disclose theirs. It has since led to some unhappiness. I had thought that there's nothing to hide among sisters but apparently money matter is a sensitive topic even among 'close' sisters as they profess us to be.

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Re: Do you disclose how much you earn to your siblings?

Postby Imami » Sun Nov 17, 2013 1:46 am

Erm... I don't feel comfortable sharing salary details with my siblings and my father. While my siblings no longer ask me, My father is quite kaypo in this subject. I could understand if he is just curious but the thing is, he doesn't keep the information to himself. Both my parents equate earning power to success in life, to a certain extent.

As for my siblings, when I first started out, they did ask me. They just wanted to make sure that I was doing fine and paid reasonably. I was many years younger and to them, I would always be the little sister. Years had passed and they no longer asked. I don't see a reason to reveal my salary information anymore, other than how many months of bonus I am getting. For my eldest brother, he is earning much more (the combine of mine and my second brother's pay is still lesser than his). Nothing good to compare with him.

As for my second brother, he was not earning a lot so why bother to compare and hurt his feelings (I am earning slightly more than twice his salary)?

Once every few years, my mum would ask about my salary(any pay increment?). I would share with her but remind her that she needs to keep that piece of information confidential.

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Re: Do you disclose how much you earn to your siblings?

Postby iFirefly » Sun Nov 17, 2013 11:48 am

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Re: Do you disclose how much you earn to your siblings?

Postby Coolkidsrock2 » Sun Nov 17, 2013 1:04 pm

My sibling has an inkling of my salary as the range is public information due to research papers from the headhunters. She also receives cold calls from local headhunters to re-locate back to Asia, hence she is very familiar with my pay and benefits.

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Re: Do you disclose how much you earn to your siblings?

Postby zbear » Sun Nov 17, 2013 1:17 pm

Ignorance is bliss. I always feel its not necessary to reveal n to find out others. It will always lead to comparisons n unhappiness amongst all. This is typical human nature.

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Re: Do you disclose how much you earn to your siblings?

Postby ptb7476 » Tue Nov 19, 2013 5:18 pm

nope we dont disclosed to sibling or parent ...i know my mom hate it but too bad cos her thinking is those who earned more most pay more regardless of commitment ...

by looking at our spending we more or less can guess each other income lolz and what is the point of knowing...

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Re: Do you disclose how much you earn to your siblings?

Postby starlight1968sg » Tue Nov 19, 2013 5:21 pm

No, I dont. I also dont know exactly how much dh earns.

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Re: Do you disclose how much you earn to your siblings?

Postby jetsetter » Tue Nov 19, 2013 5:31 pm

of course not...after the first job, no need to share with siblings anymore:) More so after each one has own family... But u can roughly tell from the type of property/no. of properties/car(s)/annual hols (JB or USA?) and enrichments*no. of children per family...kekeke...

branded handbags, shoes, diamond rings, etc. not accurate indication btw ^_^

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Re: Do you disclose how much you earn to your siblings?

Postby auntieM » Tue Nov 19, 2013 5:58 pm

jetsetter wrote:of course not...after the first job, no need to share with siblings anymore:) More so after each one has own family... But u can roughly tell from the type of property/no. of properties/car(s)/annual hols (JB or USA?) and enrichments*no. of children per family...kekeke...

branded handbags, shoes, diamond rings, etc. not accurate indication btw ^_^

Haha.. ... :lol:

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Re: Do you disclose how much you earn to your siblings?

Postby wonderm » Tue Nov 19, 2013 6:09 pm

jetsetter wrote:of course not...after the first job, no need to share with siblings anymore:) More so after each one has own family... But u can roughly tell from the type of property/no. of properties/car(s)/annual hols (JB or USA?) and enrichments*no. of children per family...kekeke...

branded handbags, shoes, diamond rings, etc. not accurate indication btw ^_^


:rotflmao:

Now I know why some people buy these things, even when they don't earn much. :laugh:

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