How much is enough for retirement in Singapore?

[MrsKiasu]

best if they give auto .. how arh? say Auntie XX's kids give how much to her every month arh

[ngl2010]

For me I will expect them to give us a portion of their income and I will not let them think that it is to contribute to the cost of the household but as a responsibility towards us, their parents. Cos if they think it is to contribute to household cost does it mean that they stop giving when they move out?

Even now, I make them pass to me 50% of all their angbaos and savings.

Same thinking as me. Except that DS keeps 100% of his angbaos and savings.

[ngl2010]

If we tell them that they need to give us money to contribute to our household expenses, will they think that we also have to contribute to their household expenses when we are 90 years old and living with them? I think it is a bad idea to use this reasoning.

[tyeogh]

I would assume the $1319 probably arrived from data collected from people around the median of the 80% living in HDB. They donch really care about people living in private prop, do they?

The article below
https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/ ... le-elderly

Includes private property. It is $1,379 for singles and $2,351 for couples aged 65 and above.

[Funz]

Start brainwashing them now.

My kids see me giving my parents every month. I do talk about it to them and sometimes I ask them so next time when you start working how much of your income do you think you will give us. And like now they auto pass to me 50% of their angbaos and savings.

[MrsKiasu]

we didn't plan well..our kids don't know we been giving allowance to our parents

my mom doesn't give monthly allowance to my grandparents but I believe she gave on ad hoc basis/ buy things for them..coz grandpa is earning quite good at that time..in fact esp married uncles with kids got contribution from the elders..they got their first home with money from their parents..me and dh, we dont remember specifically our parents asked us for allowance when we first came out to work but we gave them from since first come out to work even when we saving money for our hdb/marriage.. we feel good to be able to 'take care' of our parents then so I really hope our kids will have that kind of thinking.

[tyeogh]

Er....dunno about you guys. I have teenagers. They seem to have grown a mind of their own. I can't even get them to eat dinner together as a family at the same time. My peers report the same. What more give us pocket money in our old age. Yes, we can "train" them with ang baos. That's bec they are living under our auspice and they know they have to comply. Or at least answer "Yes, they will take care of us" .

When they grow their own wings, it is a different story. I know of many who do not give their parents pocket money or give adequately. It became the source of endless family squabbles. I'd be happy alreafy if they dont come to me with "wonderful investment ideas" in my old age.

[tyeogh]

Btw I have 4 kids. I know their nature. 2 is likely to give and 2 not. Is this called a balanced portfolio?

[MrsKiasu]

looking at the rate they are growing.. I sometimes have many questions with myself..err like kids are changing already not exactly same as last time (not too long ago!) dd still telling how much she loves me leh..

now like so busy that start ignoring me like that de.. like this morning, I prepared 3 types of food for them..breakfast & recess..breakfast as I asked them separately what they want to eat..so I thought never mind la..instead ask one of them to eat the same as the other, I thought just prepare la ..eat happy then start off the day happier mah I thought..I was feeling extra tired somehow this morning..I prepared my own breakfast thought I eat first but when starting on the food & fruits prep for them I just couldn't leave the kitchen..so after they put on uniform I sat down start eating and say aiyo today what happened arh, feeling extra tired..but nobody take note loh then in car when they abt finished their breakfast, I asked, how? nice? they say yes nice..then again I say dunno what happened lor today I prepared diff types food and feel so tired..then dd1 put her hand stroke my head/hair ..aiyo mommy poor thing..thank you..immediately I felt so happy..why am I becoming like small kid liao arh

[Nebbermind]

If we tell them that they need to give us money to contribute to our household expenses, will they think that we also have to contribute to their household expenses when we are 90 years old and living with them? I think it is a bad idea to use this reasoning.

If at 90 and I still have an income, I will contribute to the household