ManU123 wrote:How do you advise/console your child if he/she did not get into his first-choice school?
He/she must have studied hard for the past 1 year, foregoing a lot of play time.
If he/she did not get into the first-choice school that he/she has aimed for all along, how do you advise/console him?
I knew of a friend last time who was very devastated and it has a major impact on him after that. He used to be loud and cheerful, but later became more reserved and less confident.
does he has any other friends going to his second choice school?
one lesson for all of us parents to learn is that sometimes, setting a specific target is not a good thing after all.
i learnt it the hard way last year when my boy thought that he would be streamed to the best P2 class. he put in a lot of effort in his studies and i kept his spirits up by asking him to target to get into that class. then came end of the year when the new principal scrapped the P2 streaming system. his face 'colour' changed immediately and he told me that all his efforts had been gone to waste. it was an eye-opener for me. my experience is only a mini scale as compared to yours. have a good talk with your kid. assess and focus on the good points of the second best school. it will be good if some of his friends will be going there with him as well or that the second choice sch offers CCAs that interests him.
all the best.