KiasuParents - Parenting in Singapore

Interestingly today's ST reported that 3 of the top 5 PSLE students this year have stay at home mums. While the other 2 have mums that work part time to focus attention on them.

Guess more will be following suit in years to come.

Wah, means my kids got chance liao lor
No lah, just joking

Good PSLE results is just a bonus. What is important is that our staying home would provide a good support environment & hopefully instil proper values so that they dun be lead astray during teens & be able to become a proper fine man/lady.
不需要大富大贵， 只要不穷， 不需为三餐愁，能知足常乐， 好好做人，不要做坏事

BeContented wrote:Wah, means my kids got chance liao lor
No lah, just joking

Good PSLE results is just a bonus. What is important is that our staying home would provide a good support environment & hopefully instil proper values so that they dun be lead astray during teens & be able to become a proper fine man/lady.
不需要大富大贵， 只要不穷， 不需为三餐愁，能知足常乐， 好好做人，不要做坏事

Think just need someone who has positive influence to provide support and guidance to the child.

The 2010 top PSLE student credited his grandmother for his PSLE success.

The person does not necc be the parents, might not even be related to the child.

But as parents, it's nice if our kids think we are the ones there for them

The article seems accurate to a certain degree, kids with stay at home parent tends to do better . If you are in civil service, most of the scholars (when you get to know their background & early childhood development) either in EDB or MTI, most of them grew up with stay home parent which I observed!

How old are these scholars? Think if they are in their 40s, it might be more common for mums to stay at home? My frens' mothers were all SAHM.

Ultimately it's the child's motivation level that matters. If the child is simply not interested in studies, then whether or not parents stay at home may not make that much of a difference unless the parents are able to motivate the child. Think for these top students, their motivation levels are already high in the first place, so having a parent to coach them at home becomes a bonus.

There are probably moms who read the article with a tinge of guilt. But realistically staying at home is not for everyone. Other than the financial concerns, the feeling of isolation from staying at home can be overwhelming. A depressed parent staying at home is not going to do the child any good. Anyway working parents are likely to have more financial means to send their kids for tuition if the parents themselves are unable to help with the child's revision.

It is also important to ask the child if he/she wants mom or dad to be at home all the time. I have seen mom getting onto the nerves of the child and vice versa.

SAHM_TAN wrote:How old are these scholars? Think if they are in their 40s, it might be more common for mums to stay at home? My frens' mothers were all SAHM.

These are the recent scholars range from 24 to 30s age group lah, I don't mean all (stay at home mum) just notice good percentage of their background…… also Not referring to theirs 40s age group.

All the above are correct. Just want to add that for the smart and motivated ones, SAHM or working mum don't make much of a difference in primary school. 262 and 282 both gets one into RI/RGS, while secondary school and above is very much up to the child. Infact, the independent learners have the advantage then.

It is for the less smart or unmotivated ones that SAHM makes more of a difference. For the special needs child, it can be a do or die case.

At the highest level (above O lvls), what is really going to make a difference is financial means. With less than perfect grades at A lvls, a choice between SIM or NYU could depend on whether your mum is SAHM or working mum.