Suspect my maid has hp, advice needed
Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2012 10:03 pm
Hello fellow KS parents,
I need some advice.
My Indo FDW has worked for me more than 18 months. She has been pretty good, helping me with housework plus looking after my 3 young kids. As understood in r contract, she is not allowed to have a handphone. She actuallly asked me a few months back if she could have a hp, but i told her no, but we can discuss after she finish her 2 yrs with us.
today, when i was out with my kids, my eldest girl (5 yrs old) told me that 'auntie has a pink phone!" I was surprised and asked if it was a 'toy' phone..she said, 'no, its a real phone..i ask auntie to call me, etc".
*SIAN* ...i don't know if i should take my girl's word seriously.
Just now while my maid was in the toilet, i checked her stuff..found one of our many hp chargers tucked in between her jeans, plus a 'Kupon Gold Rp50,000" phone card inside the pocket. --anyone familiar with that?
It says 'Scratch the code shield with coin to get the 12 digit pin, the type SMS to Singapore number blah blah blah so that can sms to Indonesia. So i sppose this can only be used with a Handphone???
So, using circumstanial evidence, can i conclude that 99% she has a phone???
She always stay in the toilet for very long time, sometimes can be as long as 20 mins. I ask her what's she doing inside, 99.999% she will tell me she got stomach ache. Come on, stomach ache at the same time everyday?!!?! Just now i was quite angry i asked her again, what she's doing inside, again she said 'nothing, stomach ache...need to go toilet.!
Actually she has been quite good in our house so far, but i think too long with us also too familiar already. If she really has a hp, and using it in the toilet, I also have to resign myself to it right, coz i still need a maid If she is just using it when she is in the toilet, its usually when all my kids are having afternoon nap or at night when all the kids are in bed. So technically she is not using the phone at the expense of thekids.
But I feel that it is a matter of principle. Since i already told her no hp, if she went on to get it i am very disappointed. My mum's take is, 'i need her so if i confront her and if she really has a hp, what am i going to do? Will i go all the way and fire her? Can i afford to do tt?" If i cant, i just have to 'close one eye'. Should I do that?
Just now i was quite angry (at her being in the toilet so long) so i asked v sternly what is she doing in the toilet so long! I think she quite taken aback (defensive?) and then said she ddidn do anything. I told her if she is doing something i asked her not to do and she did it i will be very angry and that's the end (i don'yt know if she got my lousy hint).
If u were in my shoes, will you just move on 'close one eye', or .....?
In my hurry to rummage her stuff, her 'top up card' is with me... didn have time to put it back in her jeans pocket. Oops. She will know i took it out... how....help!
I need some advice.
My Indo FDW has worked for me more than 18 months. She has been pretty good, helping me with housework plus looking after my 3 young kids. As understood in r contract, she is not allowed to have a handphone. She actuallly asked me a few months back if she could have a hp, but i told her no, but we can discuss after she finish her 2 yrs with us.
today, when i was out with my kids, my eldest girl (5 yrs old) told me that 'auntie has a pink phone!" I was surprised and asked if it was a 'toy' phone..she said, 'no, its a real phone..i ask auntie to call me, etc".
*SIAN* ...i don't know if i should take my girl's word seriously.
Just now while my maid was in the toilet, i checked her stuff..found one of our many hp chargers tucked in between her jeans, plus a 'Kupon Gold Rp50,000" phone card inside the pocket. --anyone familiar with that?
It says 'Scratch the code shield with coin to get the 12 digit pin, the type SMS to Singapore number blah blah blah so that can sms to Indonesia. So i sppose this can only be used with a Handphone???
So, using circumstanial evidence, can i conclude that 99% she has a phone???
She always stay in the toilet for very long time, sometimes can be as long as 20 mins. I ask her what's she doing inside, 99.999% she will tell me she got stomach ache. Come on, stomach ache at the same time everyday?!!?! Just now i was quite angry i asked her again, what she's doing inside, again she said 'nothing, stomach ache...need to go toilet.!
Actually she has been quite good in our house so far, but i think too long with us also too familiar already. If she really has a hp, and using it in the toilet, I also have to resign myself to it right, coz i still need a maid If she is just using it when she is in the toilet, its usually when all my kids are having afternoon nap or at night when all the kids are in bed. So technically she is not using the phone at the expense of thekids.
But I feel that it is a matter of principle. Since i already told her no hp, if she went on to get it i am very disappointed. My mum's take is, 'i need her so if i confront her and if she really has a hp, what am i going to do? Will i go all the way and fire her? Can i afford to do tt?" If i cant, i just have to 'close one eye'. Should I do that?
Just now i was quite angry (at her being in the toilet so long) so i asked v sternly what is she doing in the toilet so long! I think she quite taken aback (defensive?) and then said she ddidn do anything. I told her if she is doing something i asked her not to do and she did it i will be very angry and that's the end (i don'yt know if she got my lousy hint).
If u were in my shoes, will you just move on 'close one eye', or .....?
In my hurry to rummage her stuff, her 'top up card' is with me... didn have time to put it back in her jeans pocket. Oops. She will know i took it out... how....help!