KiasuParents - Parenting in Singapore

Would you make your helper pay for things that she has damaged in the house? i.e. items that cannot be repaired or very costly to repair.

I have never asked any of my past helpers to pay for anything. But I am at my wits end with my current one. She is not focused in what she does and needs to be reminded constantly on getting chores done. She has damaged my clothes, furniture in the house, kitchen appliances and cutlery. The last straw is her burning the debate uniform of my girl. Sigh...

I guess i should confiscate her handphone rather than make her pay part of the purchase of a new skirt for my girl...

wits end...

Yes u sh!!! Dan she will feel ur pain n d pinch n learn d lesson.

Would your boss punish you in this manner?

As an employee, we also wish to know what kind of punishment is for what misdeed and not be punished without prior warning.

is the objective of the maid to find another employer ?

Should send her back to the agency for counseling.

Some maids r cunning, later go make police report accuse u of abusing her, more problem.

My sis in law had an ex-helper whom confided to my helper that she purposely burnt a hole in my SIL's new top because she is unhappy with my SIL....Her way of getting back.
My personal experience included...breaking a new pair of ceramic knife, breaking the pot cover, burning the base of my pot, 'colour dyeing' my new shirt. The last draw was she threw away the coffee filter netting of my 1-day old coffee maker. That made me very unhappy because you cannot buy the filter separately. The next day, she came back from her off day with a new coffee maker, which surprised us! Well, at least that showed she really didn't mean to damage things.
Talk to her and find out why she keeps making the same mistakes may be an avenue out for you. Issue ultimatum only if things do not improved despite reminders.

Jennifer wrote:Should send her back to the agency for counseling.

Some maids r cunning, later go make police report accuse u of abusing her, more problem.

I agree with what you say. When my helper comes, I will be extra careful when dealing with her. I do not want to be accused. If I'm not wrong, I do not think we can dock our helper's pay if they damage our stuff. I rather report to agency.

If I get myself into trouble over issues which can be solved easily, it isn't worth it. I have much more to lose compared to her.

Just get the agent to handle such problems. After all, you've paid agency fees.

We tried handling the maid problems ourselves but found out, they'll just take advantage of you. Don't waste your time and stress out unnecessarily-get agent to solve!

The maids will always have 1 trick after another, having forgotten however good you've treated them!

my personal experience is agent will not help much in this matter.if the maid has bad attitude, counseling fr. agent won't help much.

once my ex maid ran to nearby police st when she went out to throw rubbish. Police asked us to pick her bk but we refused,worried she would later jump out fr the car.so we asked the agent to pick her bk.
Agent was furious wf her.At the end,agent no choice but to pick her bk. She thought the police would send her to Indonesia,coz she just wanna come sg to "explore".Agent told me that she was stunned when she went to pick her.

If you are unhappy with your maid (for whatever reasons), send her back to the agent and choose another maid.. Don't keep the maid just to torture her "to make her feel your pain".. And, please don't deduct her pay, even if you have the right to do so.. 她们离乡背井来这里工作，也是为了让家人过得好一点。不是吗 ?