KiasuParents - Parenting in Singapore

Hi members,

I started this new thread to discuss any issue about transfer maid so that new maid hirer could get some feedback or ideas if they getting one.

As for me, all my last 3 transfer maids never manage to complete the 2 years contract. The first 2 with attitude problem and last one just sent home due to pregnancy. I just got a new transfer maid agan since I need one urgently. She already worked since December 2012. I am afraid she will want to work for another one year only instead of fulfiling the 2 years contract with me. I have a total of 11 maids since 1996.

Hoping to gather some tips or advise from members from this wonderful forum.

I know of 1 maid who has an unreasonable employer who expects her to clean a 3 storey house every day, cook and to look after her special needs child too. The employer was well-known in the neighborhood for her fiery temper and unreasonable attitude. no neighbours like this employers and maids in the neighborhood warned this maid that previous maids left after working 1 to 2 weeks and so many maids come and go because of the unreasonable employer. This maid has worked close to a year and soon is requesting for transfer.

Sometimes, you can get very good transfer maids too. There are many employers in Singapore who are not treating the maids with respect. I have seen poor maids carrying all the heavy loads but the husband and wife are not helping at all. At least the man should help. Maids are human too. If you are treating your maid badly, the words will spread in the neighborhood and other maids in the neighborhood will warn the maid about what type of employer she has.

If the maid requests for transfer, employers should also reflect upon their attitudes.

sembgal wrote:...
Sometimes, you can get very good transfer maids too. There are many employers in Singapore who are not treating the maids with respect. I have seen poor maids carrying all the heavy loads but the husband and wife are not helping at all. At least the man should help. Maids are human too. If you are treating your maid badly, the words will spread in the neighborhood and other maids in the neighborhood will warn the maid about what type of employer she has.
If the maid requests for transfer, employers should also reflect upon their attitudes.

True. But I have news for you. .... Even if you treat your maid well, she will complain about you to other maids.
Why? I don't know. I suspect that: they don't want to feel left out when others complain about their employers?/ have to show that they are not having a rosy time etc

POA Teacher wrote:

sembgal wrote:...
Sometimes, you can get very good transfer maids too. There are many employers in Singapore who are not treating the maids with respect. I have seen poor maids carrying all the heavy loads but the husband and wife are not helping at all. At least the man should help. Maids are human too. If you are treating your maid badly, the words will spread in the neighborhood and other maids in the neighborhood will warn the maid about what type of employer she has.
If the maid requests for transfer, employers should also reflect upon their attitudes.

True. But I have news for you. .... Even if you treat your maid well, she will complain about you to other maids.
Why? I don't know. I suspect that: they don't want to feel left out when others complain about their employers?/ have to show that they are not having a rosy time etc

Haha, true. Some maids like to gossip among themselves too. Some maids are so good with children that they can even coach them in simple school work.

My ex-transfer maid make arrangement with my neighbour's maid to go marketing together. No wonder she took some times for marketing every week.

My first maid was a transfer maid. Being very new at hiring maids, I did not know what to look out and the agent was also very dishonest. He lied to us about the reasons the maid got transferred. In the end, I tried to train and tolerate her but gave up after 3 to 4 months. She tried to correct me in the instructions I gave her. Hello? Who is the employer and whose house is this? Her duties were only to clean the house but my house is not clean at all! No difference compared to not cleaning!

Then when I brought her back to agency, the agent told her off saying she never learn and never change!

The agent lied to us but not feel sorry. Even had argument with us regarding payment! Pissed off...

My current maid (second maid) is not without problems but at least my house is clean (or rather generally clean) with CLOSE monitoring.

Conclusion: I will never take transfer maid again.

From my experience,
I will never get transfer maid again.

Because of many reasons,
I was being made to take a transfer maid as I was going to deliver my baby in another month time( I got to train her to cook n handle my 2 elder kids ), who I knew was with her previous employer for only a week.
I myself have another maid who is with us for 4 years and need to be bk to INDO for 3 weeks(the period when I will deliver anytime).
I didn't want her at all but my MIL said its ok, we can changed her if we are not ok with her.
another big mistake.

She was with me for only 1 month and 2 weeks & I can tell u the many things she did!

I wanted a Indo Maid yet a Filipino came.
She has 3 kids herself and yet not loving at all.
I have made it clear NO HP (as I need her to help me with my baby and its NOT OK to let her have her hp with her) n yet after me checking her bag with no hp,
she ended up to have not 1, but 3 HPs few days later!!
I realised she has been using her hp during the day n night time...
I caught her using and I used her if she is making an important call to her hus/children,
She told me " I am talking to my FRIEND."
So I asked her if she want to use it during her nap time, or just night time.
either one, she got to hand her hp back to me when she is not using.
I don't see myself at any fault as when I first stated, it is clearly NO HP.
I also informed the maid agency, who told me to give her another chance.

I gave her a routine to follow, n can nap for an hour in the noon as it's dangerous for her to take care of my baby if I need to send my 2 elder kids for classes.
she napped for an hour, and asked for another hour as she said she has finished what she should do.
every night I will give her her hp at 9pm which she requested and I don't see it as a problem since its her bed time.
but aft 2 weeks, she asked for it earlier and earlier.
She will give me attitude whenever i tell her to do things, but most importantly, when I tell her to bath my daughter.
I mean she has 3 kids herself and yet not patient and loving at all.

She will sit on the massage chair to use her hp when we are out
(she request to have her hp when she stays hm while I bring my kids out)
after changing my bedsheets, she will sit on my bed to change the pillow cases.
when I told her she shouldn't do that, she asked me "WHY CANNOT"

it was also later that I realised when she is here for the 1st week,
she got her don't know who to come to our House, to pass her money.
when I told her she must informed me if she wants anyone to come to our plc as I have 2 kids have hm and what if things happen,
she asked "WHY CANNOT" again.

I checked her stuff when she is out and realised she has a book, full of SG contact numbers
only here for a month and yet she has so many friends???

She kept insisting to have her off day on the 19th May which I told her I cannot confirm as I will be delivering on the 1st week of May, my 1st maid will only be returning to SG on the 10th May and I need to make sure everything is settled before I can approve her leave.
and U know what?
she actually called my maid who is in INDO to confirm if she is coming bk on the 10th so she can have her off day on the 16th May.
she even complained to my maid that I always gave her her hp aft 11pm which I NEVER.
she asked me for her leave not once, not twice, but so many times!!!

I have also told her not to off the lights in the living room until I am home as I was heavily pregnant then and I need the light to be on.
As I reached hm 30mins past 9pm, which is very late for her as she needed her HP at 9pm.
she off all the lights, including the lights at the carpark,
and locked the glass door which only the last person who came hm will lock as it can be only opened from the inside,
to let me know how unhappy she is!!!
When I managed to get my MIL to open the door,
I went to her and asked her if she knows she need to have the lights on,
she opened her door, showing her very black and unhappy face, slammed open the kitchen door,
told me she WANTS HER HP!!
so I told her ok, go to my car and carry my daughter as she's aslp and I m just a week away to delivering,
she went to my car, carrying my daughter in bride's style, and want to swing my daughter's body to let my daughter's legs hit the car door for it to close,
right infront of me( still very angry typing this out!)
so I shouted to her to bring my daughter into the living room, and instead of asking me what else she needs to help me with, she stood at the door, with her arms folded.
I put her hp on the table, she took it, walked to her room and slammed her door, loud and clear.

the next day I called up the maid agency and complained.....
they kept trying to delay me and tell me they will need time to get me a new one , all the excuses.
and I asked them If they are going to take responsible if anything happen to my kids when I go deliver.
very angry with their service.
when my 1st maid came bk on the 10th May, I also got the incharged to bring this transfered maid away.
she cried badly and said she didn't leave.
and when she knew she have to leave, the first thing she asked was,
"what about my off day!"
seriously......

I am so glad she is out of our house!!!

if u are going to ask me about the maid agenecy.
CHONG PANG MAID AGENCY.

What a horrifying maid experience you had. Thanks for sharing.

Hi ,

My maid is finishing her contract next year in april 2014 and will be leaving due to her family issues .

I need some help if anyone do not need a maid anymore who is well behaved n love kids and want to intro to anthr Employer .

I would be glad to hear from you then .

I want a maid who has a hardworking attitude and wants to earn money .

Do drop me a msg if any .