Maid looking up porn on the ipod touch in the kid's room

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Maid looking up porn on the ipod touch in the kid's room

Postby xiangusk » Fri Jun 27, 2014 11:05 am

I keep a ipod touch in the kid's room where the maid sleeps. The kids get some night time songs before going to bed. While looking for some new songs two days ago, I discovered someone had googled 'Indonesia sex video'. Looking through safari history, the person went through other porn sites in Indonesian or Malay language. I went through about 3 weeks worth of history. Before you say, it's the husband, I am going to say it isn't likely. I was also on leave those days when the searches happened. (He was at work.) He also is not great with gadgets.

I am bothered by this because some history show fuckbook(?) - a page that she can connect with other individuals who are seeking one night stands. (It's like a dating website with people offering to have sex.) I would not want her to have naughty sessions at my home. Sorry. Only the hubby and I get to do that. As far as I know, she doesn't have cash on her to buy protection or see a doctor for birth control. That's a bit of danger there.

I don't think we mistreat her (but of course this is just what we think). We have declined requests for mobile phone and requests to use soil to wash her hands. (She handles pork.) The worst that could happen is she could have a thriving business in my home or she decides to rob us.

I spoke with my husband about this. He is definitely old school and super traditional. He thinks no porn even on her rest time. I am more relaxed about it if it is just porn. (It could be done during her rest time - she takes a nap after lunch.) She just started her contract 4 months ago and she is still paying off the loan. I don't know her intentions. If I talk to her her now, I'm worried that her intention and activities will still continue but it becomes harder to find out. I spoke with the agency and she said for us to bring her back. She informed me in such instances the maids will be sent home.

I am very confused what is the right thing to do. We haven't spoken with her about this. She is compensated for all off days so in fact she is at work with us. Is it reasonable to expect her not to look at porn considering she is a domestic worker? Is it reasonable to expect her not to have boyfriends since she is on work time? Do I have to spell this out?

Is domestic work different from corporate work? I don't get social networking on my office, nor porn. Even if I surf porn on my personal device, or sex in the stair way I am pretty sure I will be dealt with swiftly and severely if discovered - just chuck anything in the rule book at this sexual deviant! (If I rob the organisation, it is a criminal offence.) Am I expected to allow her to view porn, hook up, etc because she is a human too? I'm trying not to be an asshole.

(ps. Please don't skewer me for not letting her wash her hand in soil and not letting her buy a phone. She was told no phones and she has to work with pork when before she accepted the job. She said OK.)

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Re: Maid looking up porn on the ipod touch in the kid's room

Postby xiangusk » Sun Jun 29, 2014 9:36 am

Bumping for advice.

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Re: Maid looking up porn on the ipod touch in the kid's room

Postby rains » Sun Jun 29, 2014 9:46 am

Looking up porn is a habit, and habits die hard.

I feel that if you are not comfortable with your maid doing that, you should be free to send her back.

If she had been uncomfortable with handling pork in the first place, as requested by her to wash her hands with soil, I wouldn't have hired her at all. She may have felt compelled to touch what she deemed unclean.

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Re: Maid looking up porn on the ipod touch in the kid's room

Postby POA Teacher » Sun Jun 29, 2014 11:03 am

rains wrote:Looking up porn is a habit, and habits die hard.

I feel that if you are not comfortable with your maid doing that, you should be free to send her back.

If she had been uncomfortable with handling pork in the first place, as requested by her to wash her hands with soil, I wouldn't have hired her at all. She may have felt compelled to touch what she deemed unclean.

Can't touch what is deemed unclean. But can watch what is deemed unclean (porn).
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Re: Maid looking up porn on the ipod touch in the kid's room

Postby xiangusk » Mon Jun 30, 2014 9:05 am

Ha! I switched out the devices on midnight Friday. She watched porn again on Sunday. This time, she was careful to delete the browser history but not so careful to close tabs.

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Re: Maid looking up porn on the ipod touch in the kid's room

Postby JJ1111 » Mon Jun 30, 2014 9:39 am

Everyone tolerate level is different. So what is your tolerant level? I will be uncomfortable, I will be worry that she "touch" my kids while watching.

I am one who can tahan maid with handphone, use facebook and even stealing. I just need to keep my valuable items lock. But I can't tolerate maid who watch porn and hunger for MEN.

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Re: Maid looking up porn on the ipod touch in the kid's room

Postby MotherHen » Mon Jun 30, 2014 10:21 am

Maybe I'm inflexible, but no, I will not tolerate my maid watching porn, especially with young kids around. Worse still, watching porn on a device that my kids have access to. Like you said, history is not cleared, tabs are not closed, it's just a matter of time that the kids will "accidentally" enter these websites too.

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Re: Maid looking up porn on the ipod touch in the kid's room

Postby Nebbermind » Mon Jun 30, 2014 10:38 am

change wifi password and do not allow the ipod to go online

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Re: Maid looking up porn on the ipod touch in the kid's room

Postby JJ1111 » Mon Jun 30, 2014 11:09 am

Think of it she realised that you know she is browsing porn hence clear the history?

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Re: Maid looking up porn on the ipod touch in the kid's room

Postby xiangusk » Mon Jun 30, 2014 12:44 pm

Yup she definitely knows that I know or that I check. She got nervous about her employment and was a lot more animated when playing with the oldest. Yesterday, my husband asked me for help as he forgot his towel. She volunteered to get it for him. I'm like, what? no, that's fine, I'll do it. Haiz. No kidding on the ball, amiright or amiright.

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