Will you keep this domestic helper?
Posted: Sun Jul 19, 2015 1:01 pm
Hi,
We are in a dilemma to change or keep our current domestic helper. We are new to hiring domestic helper so I'm hoping anyone with enough experiences can shed some lights to help us make a better decision.
The biggest problem we faced with current helper is language barrier. Majority of the time, she doesn't understand what we want and what is required of her. When she finally understood, she forgets often, including her own mistakes. Not being sarcastic but truly suspect she has brain issue.
Initially, we got a helper with hope to help with child but turn out we dare not trust her to handle child due to her forgetfulness and inability to understand instructions. It also turns out the child don't feel comfortable with her.
She stays in a very rural area and not experienced with urban lifestyle. She doesn't know how to use stove to cook. We have to cook for her even though when we don't feel like eating and take care of her meals because she can't cook. This is one big drawback.
She doesn't know how to handle food, as basic as fresh milk needs to be in the fridge, meat in the freezer etc. She doesn't know how to organize things because she doesn't know what each is used for. So, we have piles of things until we have time to sort them out. When we do grocery shopping, we also have to tell her where and how to keep each single item:shrug:
Till now, she still doesn't seem to grasp the concept of soap. She thought soap is to clean but always didn't clean the soap away thoroughly. So, we end up re-rinse whatever she cleans.
Through out the months of stay, she is only handling general household cleaning. We live in a HDB flat, frankly, not much household to keep her occupied daily. What she does is ironing and folding clothes, sweep and mop floor, sterilze bottles, wash plates and miscellaneous tasks like keeping newspaper, keeping toys, replenish toilet rolls...etc. She doesn't need to feed child at night. She sleeps at 10 and wakes up at 7 every morning.
I think because there is really nothing much for her to do, to keep herself occupied, she does things that are not required of her. For example, she wipe the walls, wash toilets every day, sweep the floor twice daily, wash the plates that were never used, she even wipe toiletries bottles, containers...etc. I even saw her arranging chopsticks one by one. She is always doing something but she can't do what we really need her to do. At the same time, what baffled us is although we always see her cleaning things, the things are always not clean
She doesn't know how to use cutlery and eats horribly. We are really very reluctant to eat together with her when we brought her out for family outings. She is a very messy eater, very very messy eater. She can have grains of rice all over her face, noodles dangling out of her mouth, soup pours all over her chest, eat with very loud noise... etc. We really want to run away every time she sits and eats with us.
She is very emotional and cries easily. But I think she has overcome this issue and learn to take feedback positively. However, it can really gets on our nerves because it will take many many attempts to get her understood our point. After which, she will remember for a few days and forgot what was told!
She is always breaking and spoiling things. She doesn't listen to instructions, forget instructions and hence, always breaking and spoiling things. To date (1 door, 5 mops, 2 electric kettles, 2 toasters, 2 steamers, 3 irons, numerous plates, bowls and cups, clothes etc.)
WHAT WE LIKE ABOUT HER
Because of her language barrier and culture diff, she dare not go out on her own. She doesn't have the day off and hand phone usage issue.
Whenever we ask if she wants to shop for anything she needs, she always declined. So, we don't have to deal with her shopping issue too.
She doesn't spend her money. So, we don't have to deal with her overspending and pay in advanced issue.
She is afraid of strangers, particularly men, so we won't be worrying her doing hanky panky.
She doesn't want to call home to the extend that we have to force her to make a phone call home. So, we don't have to deal with the phone bill issue.
We can really go on with this arrangement if we wanted to. But we do hope to find someone who can communicate better so that we can delegate more tasks to the helper. But wondering, if is worth changing the helper who is incompetent but doesn't give us other problems like phone usage, day-off, hanky panky...etc.
She has been with us for almost 1 year. Unless we are going to have 6 years with her, I doubt is worth to spend more time to train her further or to expect more from her because she really really can't remember and understand instructions well.
What will you do?
We are in a dilemma to change or keep our current domestic helper. We are new to hiring domestic helper so I'm hoping anyone with enough experiences can shed some lights to help us make a better decision.
The biggest problem we faced with current helper is language barrier. Majority of the time, she doesn't understand what we want and what is required of her. When she finally understood, she forgets often, including her own mistakes. Not being sarcastic but truly suspect she has brain issue.
Initially, we got a helper with hope to help with child but turn out we dare not trust her to handle child due to her forgetfulness and inability to understand instructions. It also turns out the child don't feel comfortable with her.
She stays in a very rural area and not experienced with urban lifestyle. She doesn't know how to use stove to cook. We have to cook for her even though when we don't feel like eating and take care of her meals because she can't cook. This is one big drawback.
She doesn't know how to handle food, as basic as fresh milk needs to be in the fridge, meat in the freezer etc. She doesn't know how to organize things because she doesn't know what each is used for. So, we have piles of things until we have time to sort them out. When we do grocery shopping, we also have to tell her where and how to keep each single item:shrug:
Till now, she still doesn't seem to grasp the concept of soap. She thought soap is to clean but always didn't clean the soap away thoroughly. So, we end up re-rinse whatever she cleans.
Through out the months of stay, she is only handling general household cleaning. We live in a HDB flat, frankly, not much household to keep her occupied daily. What she does is ironing and folding clothes, sweep and mop floor, sterilze bottles, wash plates and miscellaneous tasks like keeping newspaper, keeping toys, replenish toilet rolls...etc. She doesn't need to feed child at night. She sleeps at 10 and wakes up at 7 every morning.
I think because there is really nothing much for her to do, to keep herself occupied, she does things that are not required of her. For example, she wipe the walls, wash toilets every day, sweep the floor twice daily, wash the plates that were never used, she even wipe toiletries bottles, containers...etc. I even saw her arranging chopsticks one by one. She is always doing something but she can't do what we really need her to do. At the same time, what baffled us is although we always see her cleaning things, the things are always not clean
She doesn't know how to use cutlery and eats horribly. We are really very reluctant to eat together with her when we brought her out for family outings. She is a very messy eater, very very messy eater. She can have grains of rice all over her face, noodles dangling out of her mouth, soup pours all over her chest, eat with very loud noise... etc. We really want to run away every time she sits and eats with us.
She is very emotional and cries easily. But I think she has overcome this issue and learn to take feedback positively. However, it can really gets on our nerves because it will take many many attempts to get her understood our point. After which, she will remember for a few days and forgot what was told!
She is always breaking and spoiling things. She doesn't listen to instructions, forget instructions and hence, always breaking and spoiling things. To date (1 door, 5 mops, 2 electric kettles, 2 toasters, 2 steamers, 3 irons, numerous plates, bowls and cups, clothes etc.)
WHAT WE LIKE ABOUT HER
Because of her language barrier and culture diff, she dare not go out on her own. She doesn't have the day off and hand phone usage issue.
Whenever we ask if she wants to shop for anything she needs, she always declined. So, we don't have to deal with her shopping issue too.
She doesn't spend her money. So, we don't have to deal with her overspending and pay in advanced issue.
She is afraid of strangers, particularly men, so we won't be worrying her doing hanky panky.
She doesn't want to call home to the extend that we have to force her to make a phone call home. So, we don't have to deal with the phone bill issue.
We can really go on with this arrangement if we wanted to. But we do hope to find someone who can communicate better so that we can delegate more tasks to the helper. But wondering, if is worth changing the helper who is incompetent but doesn't give us other problems like phone usage, day-off, hanky panky...etc.
She has been with us for almost 1 year. Unless we are going to have 6 years with her, I doubt is worth to spend more time to train her further or to expect more from her because she really really can't remember and understand instructions well.
What will you do?