beanbear wrote:I agree. I knew of friends' kids who are in the top 10 percent of their school, have consistently done well from Pri 1 - 5 and even though they would probably breeze through the PSLE, still went to intensive tuition and studying as if to "buy insurance" for their child's performance, to give themselves more options for school choices.Nebbermind wrote:It really depends on which part of the bell your kid belongs to. For those destined to go IP + those at the fringe, it's really a matter of 'how well'.ngl2010 wrote:My advice: Don't make PSLE a big deal until the child is scared about it. They can't do well if their mind is not in peace. Tell him/her that it is just like CA or SA. Don't scare them.
For the remaining 80% or so, it'll never be such a thing as 'too early' coz uually they need to do a lot of catching up on P4/5 work.
On the other hand, you have kids who are really struggling at the bottom 10-20% , and I've met parents who truly are struggling how to help their kids even pass their exam or "fail less badly".
Then there is those kids who are in the average range and foundation still quite weak and are highly pressured to do very well even though they may not up to the challenge of getting that A. They are more like B students but are pressured by family and school to go beyond their capability. It's like asking someone who is already struggling to run 1.6km to run a marathon in 6months. Not that it's not possible but it can be to a great cost.
While we learn from each other's lessons here, I do feel we first must understand our own child's strengths & limitations. Sometimes, it may also be painful for us parents to admit that our child is "average" or "bottom" of the bell curve. Some kids will take time to blossom and they may not shine at PSLE but perhaps much later in life. But if we push them over their limits at PSLE, they may burn out, get traumatised, demoralized, worsen parent-child relationship, etc.
i can relate to that totally, and no, my child do not belong to the top 10% but rather the bottom ones.
he has been struggling to pass for all this subjects. his results were botherline, either passed by a few marks or failed badly
he is not a lazy boy, but i would say he lack focus and interest.
one need to be interested to improve. he is just going through the motion when homeworks are given to him. not bother to ask when in doubts.
when he did badly, school make him stay back for more supplementary classes and this will eat into his resting, leisure and other tution hw time. it pains me to see him like that.
sometime i feel like i am really at a loss. but ultimately, i told myself that DS happiness is more important than the PSLE, i do not want to overstress or tramatise him.
i really whatever effort he made, he will not have any regrets in future.
it really pain me to see him like that