may be that is why girls more talkative .......LKVM wrote:Yes I heard too that boys start talking late...auntieM wrote:My DS started talking only after two... I heard it is quite common for boys and first borns to start later..
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Dear All
It's "nice" reading some of your children's developmental milestones... when i was reading, I can't help but wish that my son can be like some of your children... ie having only speech delay ..or having a delay in only one or two aspects etc.
My son is autistic & a moderate case. Sometimes, I wish he is just like some of the kids mentioned here.... ie "slower than his peers" ... then, it will be "easier" for me & my world would be so much more "blissful" for me & him !
Being a moderately autistic child means my son not only has speech delay (well, doctor says delay.. and i hope it is really a case of delay.. cos he is 5 this year & still no functional speech! Very worrying! Overly delayed!) , he also has difficulty socialising, he cannot play with peers & doesn't seem to enjoy peer group , has sensory issues, ... he is 5 ... still doesn't know shapes, colours, alphabets, numbers...
As if these are not enough, he has major behavior issues which is the main hindrance to his learning & development. It explains why at 5, he still hasn't picked up skills that a 2.5 yr old is normally capable of!
He attends OT, has a sensory diet in place, does brushing but still meltdown daily !!!
As I type his "shortcomings", i can't help but cry ... cos I really do not know when he can relate to me, or rather when i can relate to him, and whether he can ever be independent?!?! Most importantly, will he ever talk functionally?
Concerned friends have asked me to remain strong & be patient. I guess what else can one say to me? I admit, at times, I seemed resigned to fate, yet other times, i can't help but feel exasperated & frustrated as I try harder (to help him). I can't help but worry incessantly over my boy & wondering when will he ever "function"!
I love him very much.. I hug & kiss him everyday but it is often a one-way affection. He usually pushes me away when i hug him! I know this is a bad thing to say but much as i love him, sometimes, one glance at him tires me out almost immediately & completely!
Right now, i will continue the journey with him in whatever energy i have left ... and i hope all the great parents here will continue the journey with your special ones Take heart, your children are doing great
PS: Apologies...I meant to inspire parents here but somehow can't help but rattle off abt my challenges i have with my son. Sorry if i've failed to lift a spirit or two here
It's "nice" reading some of your children's developmental milestones... when i was reading, I can't help but wish that my son can be like some of your children... ie having only speech delay ..or having a delay in only one or two aspects etc.
My son is autistic & a moderate case. Sometimes, I wish he is just like some of the kids mentioned here.... ie "slower than his peers" ... then, it will be "easier" for me & my world would be so much more "blissful" for me & him !
Being a moderately autistic child means my son not only has speech delay (well, doctor says delay.. and i hope it is really a case of delay.. cos he is 5 this year & still no functional speech! Very worrying! Overly delayed!) , he also has difficulty socialising, he cannot play with peers & doesn't seem to enjoy peer group , has sensory issues, ... he is 5 ... still doesn't know shapes, colours, alphabets, numbers...
As if these are not enough, he has major behavior issues which is the main hindrance to his learning & development. It explains why at 5, he still hasn't picked up skills that a 2.5 yr old is normally capable of!
He attends OT, has a sensory diet in place, does brushing but still meltdown daily !!!
As I type his "shortcomings", i can't help but cry ... cos I really do not know when he can relate to me, or rather when i can relate to him, and whether he can ever be independent?!?! Most importantly, will he ever talk functionally?
Concerned friends have asked me to remain strong & be patient. I guess what else can one say to me? I admit, at times, I seemed resigned to fate, yet other times, i can't help but feel exasperated & frustrated as I try harder (to help him). I can't help but worry incessantly over my boy & wondering when will he ever "function"!
I love him very much.. I hug & kiss him everyday but it is often a one-way affection. He usually pushes me away when i hug him! I know this is a bad thing to say but much as i love him, sometimes, one glance at him tires me out almost immediately & completely!
Right now, i will continue the journey with him in whatever energy i have left ... and i hope all the great parents here will continue the journey with your special ones Take heart, your children are doing great
PS: Apologies...I meant to inspire parents here but somehow can't help but rattle off abt my challenges i have with my son. Sorry if i've failed to lift a spirit or two here
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Dear WaWa,WaWa wrote: Right now, i will continue the journey with him in whatever energy i have left ... and i hope all the great parents here will continue the journey with your special ones Take heart, your children are doing great
Chanced upon your post.
to you.
Thank YOU for sharing with us your thoughts and experiences. Its parents like you that humble me, keep me in check and not take what I have for granted.
All the best in your journey. Believe and you will make it to the end of the sidewalk one day.
Dear Wa Wa,WaWa wrote:Dear All
I love him very much.. I hug & kiss him everyday but it is often a one-way affection. He usually pushes me away when i hug him! I know this is a bad thing to say but much as i love him, sometimes, one glance at him tires me out almost immediately & completely!
Right now, i will continue the journey with him in whatever energy i have left ... and i hope all the great parents here will continue the journey with your special ones Take heart, your children are doing great
You are a great mum and your son is very lucky to have this strong mum supporting him.
Please do not take his "pushing away your hug" as a form of "pushing away your affection", it is just that some autistic kids are very sensitive to being touch, and they do not like to be touched. I am sure your son appreciates you in his special way - maybe he only wants you when he is moody, or he only listens to you when he needs comforting, or only you can calm him when he's having a meltdown session.
You are doing a good job, and keep up the spirit Find comfort in little milestones he has achieved. As long as you try, you have already done your part to help your special kid!
Wawa,WaWa wrote: Right now, i will continue the journey with him in whatever energy i have left ... and i hope all the great parents here will continue the journey with your special ones Take heart, your children are doing great
I'm seldom lost for words here at KSP but I truly am after reading your post.
I'll like to recommend you this beautiful piano music below. To me, it's therapeutic and gives me a kind of calmness that I need. Hope it does the same for you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jCSe66pWNmc
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