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The Internet is a vast source of information for all of us, and naturally some people use that information for good, and some for ill, like “grooming” and stalking children. What can you, as a parent, do to protect kids against online predators and solicitation?
A lot of the information that can be found out there is woefully outdated. Likewise, much of the information about protecting children from online predators is from another Internet era, before smart phones meant that the Internet, GPS and hi-definition audio/video capabilities, were right in our pockets.
In searching for statistics, what we have found (that wasn’t from a bygone era) was that online predators tend to glean a lot of information from social networking sites:
In 82% of online sex crimes against minors, the offender used the victim’s social networking site to gain information about the victim’s likes and <a href="https://internetsafety101.org/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">dislikes</a>.*
65% of online sex offenders used the victim’s social networking site to gain home and school information about the <a href="https://internetsafety101.org/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">victim</a>.*
But the specific means of gleaning information is less important than the prolific, yet largely unwitting sharing of information with strangers. Predators may seek out children who are participating in attention-seeking behaviors as a way of finding connections with others. Sadly, these kids are generally the ones least likely to have a concerned adult to turn to, and less likely to report solicitation. These targeted kids may also not wish to report the behavior, as they may simply be glad for the interest and may be naive about its nature.
<h4>Protecting Children On- and Off-line</h4>
Tips to reduce the risk of children being victimised generally centre around monitoring and controlling their access to the Internet in an age-appropriate way. But not all solicitation happens online, so more needs to be done to prepare kids to identify the signs. For parents, it is essential to make sure that their kids know from an early age what is the appropriate information to share with others, even people who appear to be friends (as this is what predators pretend to be).
Establish rules about when to:
<ol>
<li>Send or post photos</li>
<li>Give contact or identifying information about themselves or family</li>
</ol>
Let kids know it’s best to:
<ol>
<li>Socialise online with kids only if they are friends in real life</li>
<li>Avoid personal discussions with strangers online, especially conversations involving sex, violence, and illegal activities</li>
</ol>
As older kids become eligible for membership of social networking sites, they may wish to meet in person some of the people they have met online. It is important that a parent or guardian accompanies the teen to any first meeting, to determine if it’s safe and age appropriate.
The idea of establishing rules is not to make the child fearful of strangers, but to instill in them the ability to scrutinise the communication with a healthy sense of caution. There is a saying that is popular in the security industry: “Trust but verify”. This means not blindly accepting someone’s words at face value, but doing additional research to determine if the communication is indeed trustworthy.
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<h4>Parental concern versus independence</h4>
We understand that some of the rules might be perceived by the teens as limiting their independence. However, good parenting (or mentoring) is about finding the balance between providing children with the tools to eventually become independent adults, and spending enough time with them that they feel loved and protected.
A parent can safely lean towards being overprotective when the children are younger and until they can understand and internalise the reasons for the rules. Teenagers and adults alike are targeted by confidence schemes and scams, so learning to avoid them and protect their privacy will serve them well throughout their life.
Establishing a good rapport and open lines of communication with kids is perhaps the most important thing you can do to protect them from predators. Social engineering relies on creating a strong feeling of fear or trust. When talking about such an important topic it’s important to maintain a non-confrontational way of communicating with your child about the issue.
<a href="https://saferkidsonline.eset.com/sg/page/solution?utm_source=ksp&amp;utm_medium=advertorial&amp;utm_campaign=sko-launch&amp;utm_content=online-predators" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">ESET Parental Control for Android</a> allows you to impose limits on your child’s online time and allows you to see what they are up to when surfing. Kids can also talk to their parents about which sites should or should not be banned and ask for extra permissions to access particular sites or point out suspicious behavior they have encountered.
If a child feels comfortable discussing their experiences with a parent, without concerns about punishment or judgment, they can verify whether questionable online communications are scams or solicitation. It is important to remember that even if your children respond positively to online predators, they are still the victims in the same way that anyone who has fallen for a scam is a victim.
To learn more tips about how you can keep your child safe online, visit <a href="https://saferkidsonline.eset.com/sg?utm_source=ksp&amp;utm_medium=advertorial&amp;utm_campaign=sko-launch&amp;utm_content=online-predators" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Safer Kids Online</a>, a resource site dedicated to building a safer online environment for children. Developed by <a href="https://www.eset.com/sg/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">ESET</a>, a global leader in cybersecurity, the website offers resources such as videos, articles and expert insight, tailored for children, parents and schools. Let’s help our children enjoy the full potential of the internet in a secure digital world.
*(InternetSafety101.org)
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How to Protect your Child from Online Predators

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Missed the news on Bird Box, Tik Tok, and Momo? Here’s your chance to catch up!
Think <a href="https://www.channelnewsasia.com/news/cnainsider/parents-children-live-streaming-apps-online-porn-virtual-gifts-10838726" target="_blank" rel="noopener">live streaming</a> is the biggest internet threat that our kids are facing? The online chatter late last year was all about the sexually suggestive content that children were privy to on live-streaming apps, as well as the unsavoury requests that they could receive from other users.
This year, parents have been given fresh reasons for concern, with news about dangerous online challenges, privacy invasions, and other technology-induced hazards for our digital-age children.
“The online space is always changing. Keeping you and your kids safe online involves <a href="http://theconversation.com/dont-fall-for-it-a-parents-guide-to-protecting-your-kids-from-online-hoaxes-113179" target="_blank" rel="noopener">being aware </a>of emerging and new safety issues, and committing to a bit of research before you panic,” says technology researcher Joanne Orlando.
Parents, test yourselves: have you heard about the five developments below? Increasingly, what’s happening in other parts of the world is also of relevance to our children. Do arm yourself with information for your children’s sake, and of course, have frequent conversations with them to find out what they’re doing online, what apps they like, and how they use them.
<h2>The Bird Box Challenge</h2>
In December last year, streaming service Netflix released a post-apocalyptic thriller, “Bird Box,” which it claimed attracted 80 million household viewers in just four weeks. In the movie, a family has to go on a perilous journey while remaining blindfolded to avoid being killed by a monster.
It’s unclear how many Netflix subscribers in Asia or Singapore caught the movie, but what happened next drew international headlines as well: the birth of the viral “Bird Box challenge,” where people began blindfolding themselves in real life in order to document and share their experiences or stunts. A teen in the US was believed to have <a href="https://www.straitstimes.com/lifestyle/entertainment/teen-crashes-pickup-truck-while-driving-blindfolded-in-bird-box-challenge" target="_blank" rel="noopener">crashed</a> her pickup truck while driving blindfolded as part of the challenge, and Netflix was compelled to issue an <a href="https://twitter.com/netflix/status/1080525103593512962?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw" target="_blank" rel="noopener">official warning</a>:
“Can’t believe I have to say this, but: PLEASE DO NOT HURT YOURSELVES WITH THIS BIRD BOX CHALLENGE. We don’t know how this started, and we appreciate the love, but Boy and Girl have just one wish for 2019 and it is that you not end up in the hospital due to memes.”
<h2>The Momo Hoax</h2>
Not every report of a new and potentially deadly online challenge should be taken seriously.
One example of a recent hoax that created a stir among parent communities all over the world was the recent “Momo challenge.” The hoax gained traction through widely shared news reports that were either unverified or outright false, and many parents were mistakenly led to believe that their children could receive anonymous threatening messages from Momo, a grinning figure with dark hair and bulging eyes, via platforms such as WhatsApp and YouTube. The messages were said to either encourage children to harm themselves, or harm others. There were also rumours about Momo “sightings” in children’s content on YouTube — a claim which YouTube has <a href="https://twitter.com/YouTube/status/1100820993671495680?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw" target="_blank" rel="noopener">disputed</a>.
In reality, “Momo” is a picture of a rubber sculpture known as “Mother Bird,” which was created by Japanese artist Keisuke Aiso. Aiso exhibited the sculpture at a Tokyo art show in 2016 to little fanfare, and he is reportedly shocked by the negative publicity that his sculpture has generated. He has since <a href="https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-news/momo-sculpture-destroyed-keisuke-aiso-802627/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">destroyed</a> the sculpture. “It doesn’t exist anymore, it was never meant to last,” he says. “The children can be reassured Momo is dead — she doesn’t exist and the curse is gone.”
It’s tempting to dismiss “Momo” as just another urban myth. Unfortunately, urban myths can lead to damaging consequences if enough people begin to take them seriously. In particular, vulnerable children and teenagers can be <a href="https://www.snopes.com/news/2019/02/26/momo-challenge-suicide-game/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">greatly affected</a> by disturbing images and stories.
As parents, we may be sharing news with good intentions, but it is important to be responsible as well. Before you share a piece of news, remember to always check the veracity of your information by using fact-checking resources such as Snopes.com.
<h2>Self-Harm Tips On YouTube Kids</h2>
“Momo” might have been a hoax, but here’s what isn’t: there is plenty of disturbing content lurking in platforms that are designed for children. Paediatrician and mother Free Hess was interviewed by several prominent news outlets after she alerted other parents to distressing clips that had been inserted into children’s videos. One such clip features a man holding what appears to be an imaginary blade to his inner arm. “Remember, kids,” he says. “Sideways for attention. Longways for results.”
Hess says she has <a href="https://www.cbsnews.com/news/youtube-kids-inappropriate-horrified-mom-discovers-suicide-instructions-in-video-on-youtube-and-youtube-kids/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">reported</a> hundreds of inappropriate videos to YouTube, with some success in getting them removed. Yet, she worries that what she’s seen is just the tip of the iceberg. “&#8221;I had to stop, but I could have kept going,&#8221; she says. &#8220;Once you start looking into it, things get darker and weirder. I don&#8217;t understand how it&#8217;s not getting caught.&#8221; (Read about Hess’s findings <a href="https://pedimom.com/youtube-protectourkids/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here</a>, and learn more about YouTube’s hidden dangers <a href="https://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/article/youtube-for-preschoolers-innocent-fun-or-digital-junk/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here</a>.)
What can parents do about this? Here’s what Hess suggests:
“[We] should start by educating ourselves, educating our children, and speaking up when we see something that is dangerous for our children,” she says. “We also need to fight to have the developers of social media platforms held responsible when they do not ensure that age restrictions are followed and when they do not remove inappropriate [or] dangerous material when reported.”
<h2>YouTube’s Paedophilia Problem</h2>
It’s not just YouTube content that is worrying, but also its users. Wired <a href="https://www.wired.co.uk/article/youtube-pedophile-videos-advertising" target="_blank" rel="noopener">reported</a> this year that on YouTube, a “network of paedophiles is hiding in plain sight.” How do these paedophiles operate? They search for innocuous videos of children performing activities such as gymnastics, eating ice lollies, or playing in the pool, and leave sexually suggestive comments for the children.
According to YouTube, it has been actively <a href="https://youtube-creators.googleblog.com/2019/02/more-updates-on-our-actions-related-to.html" target="_blank" rel="noopener">disabling</a> comments on “tens of millions of videos that could be subject to predatory behaviour.” However, it said it would be broadening this move over the next few months to suspend comments on videos featuring minors, and that it was in the process of updating its algorithm to better detect predatory comments.
Parents, if you are uploading videos of your children playing, or if your children are managing their own YouTube accounts, do talk to them and set some ground rules about communicating with strangers online. You should also monitor all the interactions that take place on their videos, and report any offending users to YouTube.  
<h2>TikTok’s Privacy Violations</h2>
Have you heard of TikTok? If not, you will soon. TikTok is an app that all the early-adopter kids are using — with 500 million global users (July 2018 figures), it’s long surpassed Snapchat (186 million users) as the fun app to be on. Kids and teens love TikTok because it gives them an outlet to express themselves through singing, dancing, comedy, and lip-syncing — and capturing it on video. TikTok also lets users get creative, by dressing up their videos with songs, sound clips, and other cool effects.  
But it’s not all fun and games on TikTok. Last month, it was <a href="https://www.vox.com/the-goods/2019/2/28/18244996/tiktok-children-privacy-data-ftc-settlement" target="_blank" rel="noopener">reported</a> that TikTok would have to pay a US$5.7 million penalty for illegally collecting the private information of its child users. Since then, more disturbing news about TikTok has emerged — one UK study of 40,000 students (who used TikTok) found that 25 percent of children had connected with a stranger on TikTok, and one in 20 children had been asked by a stranger on TikTok to strip during live streams.
Once again, vigilance is crucial. If your children are on apps such as TikTok, walk them through the privacy controls, and find ways to be a part of their online life. For instance, you could watch your children’s videos and give them encouragement as well as constructive feedback to help them reap the benefits of social media, such as creative expression and networking with like-minded children. Better still, download the apps and play with them yourself, so that you can fully understand the rewards and risks that accompany their usage.